It saddens me when I hear the word RAPE. Words like I was pregnant by accident. If it wasn't in your consent, how would you have gotten pregnant? Those are the common questions we give as answers.
You see fellas, we all need the wisdom and the help of God in every way. We can't run this race of life alone. And that's why he's the lamp to our feet.
Rape is sex you don't agree to, including forcing a body part or object into your vagina, rectum (bottom), or mouth. Date rape is when you are raped by someone you know, like a boyfriend. Both are crimes. Rape is just not about sex alone — it is an act of power by the rapist and it is always wrong.
Rape as it is, is nothing more than a sexual assault. Going against your will. Rape cannot be just in the sex form alone. Once you're forced to do something against your wish, I call it rape.
A sexual assault and abuse is any kind of sexual activity that you do not agree to. And they include; inappropriate kissing, touching of your vagina, having oral or anal sex. Attempted rape. Child molestation. This happens mostly amongst teenagers. Sexual assault can be verbal, visual or anything that forces a person to join in an unwanted sexual contact or attention.
Have you heard of VOYEURISM? This is when someone watches private sexual acts. EXHIBITIONISM This is when someone exposes him/herself in public. INCEST is a sexual contact that occurs between family members. All these can happen anywhere. Even in familiar places either by a stranger , on a date, or even at home.
Date rape. This occurs as a result of date rape drugs which often have no smell or taste and can be given to you without you knowing at parties or in a club. Especially where alcohol is served. Mind you, if you're given date rape drugs, you might not be able to say no to unwanted sex and you may not be able to clearly remember what happened.
Let's not use the Western way to describe what's not. You have a boyfriend and he asks you for sex. Obviously, him asking you for sex is against your will and wish, then you finally give in. It's your fault there if you later discover you're pregnant.
Many forget that as it applies to the female, it also applies to the male. Rape isn't just a single gender "thing". It's a thing of both genders. I've heard of a guy gang raped by ladies. Someone I know so well. You might say, he's the guy! He should know how to overcome them and perhaps over power them. But I tell you. You can't underestimate the power of sexual active girls. These class of girls, their sexual drive is on another planet and they will go the extra mile to get what they want.
THE SLAPPING DEFECT
Have you ever gotten pregnant and you narrate your ordeal to someone. At the end of your story line, you conclude by saying "it was by accident."
The first question that's meant to be asked is, did you shout? Did you scream out aloud? What did you do exactly? Nothing is by accident if you were unwilling and you suddenly give in.
Most times, shouting might not be loud enough. They might not be the easiest way to get out of any rape action. You might shout amongst people and they will not help you. What do you do then?
A lady once said on TV how she was always molested as a young girl by a group of young boys. She had always sent out issues of warnings to them and they just won't stop.
The next time it happened, she was going through the normal route and this same incident happened. She got so angry and didn't know what to do. The only thing in her mind was the metal she was holding.
She immediately flung the weapon at him and it missed by just an inch. I bet, at this time she wasn't aware of her action. It was when she surprisingly saw the boys back off she knew what she had done. Had it been she didn't miss, she would have been blamed for doing that. But most people don't want to hear two stories from both parties. They just pick on the bad one because the society has said it is bad. Let not be sentimental in any way.
Whenever you feel you are being raped, and you've called for help try the slap defect. Slap your oppressor as many times as possible. Kick as much as you can. In the groin or anywhere to weak them. I know you would be saying it's much easier to say than to do.
But is there any better way to escape from rape? Rape isn't something you always plan for. It's not intentional. What's intentional is you giving in without much confrontation. Teenagers, you need to be careful with the way you follow boys around. We may look so harmless, but don't try to give them more than hey can chew. Only few are less harmless. I stand to be corrected.
Whenever you need to be at a party organised by guys, college friends;
Say no to alcohol.
Always insist to open your own drink all by yourself.
If you're given a fruit, for instamce apple or orange. Why don't you keep that fruit?
Don't always let other people hand your drinks. And if the need be, you go to the "ladies" please do make sure you're done with your drink before you go. And if you can't finish your drink before that, when you come back, why don't you ask for sealed bottle water instead?
Safe way is to keep your drink with you at all times even when you have to go to the bathroom.
Don't drink or taste anything that looks different or smells strange.
Always go to a party or club or concert with someone you trust very well.
Stay away from party drugs. They can be pills, kiquids, or powders. All these can leave you vulnerable and disoriented.
How I wish every teenage girl can always walk around with a pocket knife. I'm just saying.
However, if you think tat you have been raped,
DON'T BLAME YOURSELF.IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT.
TALK TO AN ADULT AND GO TO THE POLICE STATION OR HOSPITAL RIGHT AWAY.
TRY AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE NOT TO URINATE TILL YOU GET HELP. THIS IS TO QUICKLY IDENTIFY IF YOU WERE A VICTIM OF DRUG RAPE
DONT CHANGE CLOTHES OR BATHE BEFORE GETTING HELP. THIS MAY SCRAP EVERY EVEIDENCE THAT YOU WERE RAPED
GET EMOTIONAL SUPPORT. YOU MAY FEEL TERRIBLY SHOCKED, AFRAID OR EVEN EMOTIONALLY NUMB. TALK TO SOMEONE WHO CARES ABOUT YOU AND CAN HELP YOU EMOTIONALLY
I do wish I could spit out all my mind here but I can't. Just as I so much hate the word RAPE