For the fact that you see people move out there and go about their daily business doesn't mean everything is actually fine. I wear a handsome face and she wears a pretty smile accompanied with good make up and body physique doesn't mean she's absolutely a million percent the best.
No man is born without the intentions not to commit sin. Neither was any man born with the whole of knowledge on how to go about things beyond the physical control.
The worst thing that can ever happen to you is to commit and let your conscience keep haunting you. It's more like you've killed yourself and your conscience keeps saying "you're the killer. I'm coming for you. Why would you take me?"
If you're a lover of horror films, you will understand what I'm talking about. When you begin to feel in such a distasteful state of mind, oppression begin to set in. Frustration will lead your way beyond your human capacity.
Addiction is one thing that is not born with a man but a man gets it through crazy contamination.
Addiction is the state of being ENSLAVED to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.
Addiction is compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming
substance (as heroin, nicotine, or alcohol) characterized by tolerance and by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal; broadly.
Now, this is my favorite definition of the addiction.
Addiction is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance (e.g., alcohol, cocaine, nicotine) or engages in an activity (e.g., gambling, sex, shopping) that can be pleasurable but the continued use/act of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary life responsibilities, such as work, relationships, or health. Users may not be aware that their behavior is out of
control and causing problems for themselves and others.
However, most addictive behavior is not related to either
physical tolerance or exposure to cues. People
compulsively use drugs, gamble, or shop nearly always in
reaction to being emotionally stressed, whether or not
they have a physical addiction. Since these psychologically
based addictions are not based on drug or brain effects,
they can account for why people frequently switch
addictive actions from one drug to a completely different
kind of drug, or even to a non-drug behavior. The focus of
the addiction isn't what matters; it's the need to take
action under certain kinds of stress. Treating this kind of
addiction requires an understanding of how it works
When referring to any kind of addiction, it is important to
recognize that its cause is not simply a search for pleasure
and that addiction has nothing to do with one's morality or
strength of character.
The funny thing about addiction is; it has several siblings and cohorts. From different neighborhood. There are several forms of addiction.
Addiction can be:
Drug addiction which can be cocaine, heroin, marijuana, nicotine, tobacco, street drugs.
Prescription drugs addiction.
Sex addiction(prostituition, masturbation, pornography, gay, lesbianism)
When people are addicted to anything either good or bad, they are unable to control their actions or make rational decisions about their behavior, even in the face of negative consequences.
The good thing is every addiction can be turned away from. Some even say to adopt an habit, it takes 3 weeks. Some says 3 months. Different speculations everywhere.
Alcohol and drug addiction is one major addiction people battle with and also the most sought and talked about. But there are several and multiple addictions. For instance the sex. Sex not just between the man and woman but within one's self.
Let me hit you with this. I use to indulge in something. Romantic novels. I'm a reader. And I can go as far as anywhere to get anything to read in as much as I'm exercising my mind and eyes. It got to a stage I was in my usual inquisitive attitude and I stormed upon a novel; more like a magazine. The front page got me attracted and that's how I started venturing into it. It was all about sex, romance and all you can think of. Believe me, from that moment I started looking for romance novels. And you know when the devil wants to punish you more, you begin to see "relevant" things everywhere. Each book store I step into, I see romance novels. I so much indulged in that. And it led to another thing. At that moment I thought everything was right and just cool. On the other hand one little fire in me was countering everything. And I knew within myself that I was doing something bad. After reading the stuff, I begin to over imagine what's not. I usually go wild with my imaginations. And this led to another thing.
But thank God I'm way past that.
For I know I'm now no longer of the world and now alive in Christ. Old things are passed away all things made new.
I must tell you! It isn't any way easy to come off any form of addiction. I'm a living witness and that's why I can talk about it here.
Firstly, what you need is self determination. Once you have made up your mind, that's when more tribulations will arise. Things you didn't even know concerning that addiction will arise and you will begin to see more reason why you shouldn't drop that addiction. Self determination in the sense that you sleep every night and you just imagine. What if I don't wake up the next morning. What if I don't see the next daylight? What will my extradition be like?
Once you can identify that the addiction is wrong, doing more harm than good and in no way helping you grow spiritually, then you've set the right pace for the next move.
Secondly, you need to watch out the way you do things. Your friends. Negativity. You don't need friends with negativity and YES! If cutting them off will make you achieve what you want to do, let it be. It's better for you to be made whole and let them wonder how tremendous you've been able to desist from that. You might be a king pin in that act but when they see your motive and how handsome and beautiful you are. They will come back to you and ask "How did you do it?"
Thirdly, the right motivation. Yes! This was what I can say helped me off that habit. I met someone few years back and with the way I look at such person, I suddenly felt God brought her my way to cure me of that. Though she doesn't know yet and I know when she's reading this,.. Well!
Her life and way of life was so amazing I started asking myself. Look at her as a wife. Would you want to continue such act when you're married? My answer was NO!
If you can't control any act before marriage, how sure are you it can be a thing of the past while in marriage?
Her drive and positivity is way beyond my imagination and ever since then I can boldly speak up and say this is what I've been able to achieve right from that time. Spiritually!!
Without God nothing can be done. We will just keep wallowing in the mud. Everything we do will just be a waste. Prayer works and nobody can't say it's fake. Even the atheist can say they don't have a guiding spirit. God loves us all and even in our evil deeds, he's still there. He's only quiet waiting for us to realize our fault. He won't stop sending someone to you, speaking to you through signs, dreams and any way you can.
You can add your way of getting out of an addiction and maybe your own addiction.
With God everything is possible!