Love Is Beautiful

It hurt to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find that courage to let that person know how you feel.
Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person we will know how to be grateful for that gift.

Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance in a relationship and find out you still care for that person. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you only to find out it was never meant to be so you just have to let go.

When the door of happiness closes another opens but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us. The best kind of friend is the kind you can just be with, never say a word and then walk away feeling like it's the best conversation you've ever had.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they love you back. Don't expect love in return. Just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content that it grew in yours. There are things you will love to hear but you will never hear from the person you would like to hear them from.
But don't be so deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from their heart.

Never say goodbye if you still want to try. Never give up if you still feel you can go on. Never say you don't love a person anymore if you can't let go.
Love comes to those who still hope; although they've been dissapointed. To those who still believe; although they've been betrayed. To those who still need to love; although they've been hurt before. And to those who still have the courage and the hope to build trust again.

It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone. An hour to like someone and a day to love someone. But it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who let's you smile because it takes only a smile to make dark days bright.

HOPE YOU FIND SOMEONE THAT MAKES YOU SMILE....!!!!

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I Am Not Odejimi - My Evolution Episode 10

I neglected my Christian faith like a useless trash can. I became someone who would give God conditions. If you do this, I will stop such habit. I've allowed myself to be tossed greatly by the devil and as it mattered, I've completely lost my faith. This wasn't the way I was taught and brought up. This I know. And even in this trying time, my father just mentioned a little of life examples. I wonder where he heard those from.

I had fallen asleep when I heard a bang on the door. I only had to tighten my seatbelt like one who was inclined when the plane is set for take off.
There came another bang and this time came louder propelled with a stronger force.
I struggled out of the bed like a child not wanting to go to school.
I headed straight to the door and it was my mother. She asked me what I would love to eat and get it prepared.
Still rubbing my eyes and getting myself stable I ordered for anything I couldn't even remember vividly.

Minutes later, it was done and there came another bang on the door. I reluctantly stood up but this time not delayed because I've been prepared for what's coming the next round.
As I stood up from my bed, I reached for both the door and the food. Got a basin and was set for the battle.
She knew I was famished as she prepared my favourite. I washed my hand thoroughly and dipped it into the iyan.

Just then I received a tap on my right arm.

"So it was a dream all through?"

As the usual African father would conclude, it's a spiritual attack. After I narrated what the dream was.

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Days later, I set myself on some things I wouldn't do anymore. And with the help of my true self and commitment, I was able to meet up with my habit goals.

"My friend! What's his name sef?" A panting voice cried behind me.

I turned to see if it was me after all, I wasn't the only visible guy walking in that period.
As I looked back, it was my previous colleague at the palm wine joint. As usual, dressed in my aso oke.
He asked to know why I haven't been present at the joint as usual.

"Do you always mark register? Why must I be there always?" I answered in an irritating manner.

"Haba! If anyone amongst us has offended you let us know. And I personally..." I cut him off

"See Ige. Nobody offended me. Not at all. I just decided not to come over there. Been busy on the farm."

"Oh! I see" nodding his head.

"Yes! You see"

I told him I will be paying visits once a while. Just had to let him go cos he's the basketmouth type. If he isn't satisfied, he won't let go of me.

Where was I headed to? Nowhere. I was a wanderer at that time and taking a left turn, I saw the same car I saw the other day. I walked past it and I saw a lady, a guy and two elderly people all seated on a cane chair. I greeted the elderly people seated and was about taking two steps before I heard aso oke.

That was the name I was given in varsity obviously due to my attire. At first, I thought it was the elderly people because their farm isn't far from ours. I turned back and answered with a forceful smile while wondering how they came accross that name.

"Please come" this I heard clearly. This time it didn't sound like an elderly voice. At first I was reluctant.
I dragged my feet towards their direction before I was amazed by the fading remeberance of the face I saw.
I pretended while trying to remember where and when I saw that face.

"AgbaAkin right?"

"Yes ma! You are very correct."

I suddenly became the correspondent to a faded questionnaire.
Finally I was able to gather all event and recollect who it was.
But I was ashamed. Why was I? Was I meant to be ashamed?

Been the brilliant type in school, the modest and all sort of good qualities, I should have been the least of who will still be at home job hunting.

"Abi. Ki ni mo fe se? What will I do?"

Kemi Miss campus. She always go along with entourage. I mean her friends. That's because wherever and whenever she walked past, guys would always beckon her. And whenever she's beckoned, she will politely decline their request. So the entourage will also use that as an added advantage for themselves.

She reached for her card in her bag and I promised to call her.

We bade the final bye. That's not the final bye though.

" So Kemi will be getting married soon." I said to myself staring at the gold and shiny business card.

That position I met her doesn't look more or lesser than an introduction. They guy had brought her to his parents. And the ring on her middle finger said it all.

"Anyways" I shrugged and walked back taking the short route back home.

I called as promised the follwong morning. And her secretary answered the phone. I was then transferred to her.
We spoke for hours asking after everybody. Those contacts she has and I don't have and vice versa.
She even confessed that she once had a crush on me back then in school. But she's way passed that now. She made mention of I would only greet her as normal friend.
Well, we weren't more than that too. After all the introduction and remembrance, she asked

"Why haven't you tried Lagos here. Things are cheaper, affordable and even accomodating"

"Me? Lagos? Where would I even stay? I don't have anybody there at all." I answered back childishly.

"Well you're very correct. You have no one but now you have me"

I laughed at her slight joke which I didn't tak seriously and we talked for a few minutes as we ended the conversation.
Meanwhile, she had arranged for someone to come pick me up at the village. What for? I wouldn't know too.

She called me a day before I was to leave the village that someone will be in the village and she will need my address.

"That was a short period. How would I get my things done?" Was what I saidWhat do I actually need to get in my metallic box? How many clothes do I have?

I found my way one way into Lagos. Lagos ythey say is a no man's land. A place where everyone does what he feels works for him. I guess that's why she said very accomodating.
Hours later, we arrived Lagos. I can't say how but I know this driver did some magics with the steering.

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I could remember when my lecturer will say "when you eventually become who you are, the first person you will remember is yourself. Before any other person"

I never believed him. Not at all. For what? I'm not selfish!

I Am Not Odejimi - My Evolution

I couldn't have gotten any answer better than myself. At this point, frustration became a close ally than a foe. Some days, I will sit just at home and go to the farm. And some other days I will just go to the palm wine shop and while away my time there. I am not even a palm wine lover but as you know, a villager has no option that was my case.

Many times would I come home half drunk and just want to sleep and then the nagging just starts. Will you just continue this way? And then the most irritating statement follows. "Why can't you just be like Odejimi?"

I've been keeping calm so I don't talk back. And in the African culture, talking back at your parents is a huge disrespect.

"My son! He shouted. You know Ajoke? Where is she now. What is she doing? Where does she reside now? What about her parents?" Of course I won't give answers because the questionnaire will give answers.

"She has elevated. Her parents now have the second largest building in this small community that we are in. Why don't you just be like her"

To think of it, it wasn't my fault. It's not like I haven't tried looking for job around corners. I've done and redone all I know is the necessity. I'm just yet to be called and notified. No one is saying anything. This I have explained and reestablished to my folks. Oh yeah! Folks. That's what I call them now. Quite a good number of years in the city did a little refining on me.

They feel I am not doing enough. Change is a constant thing and it's inevitable to all humans. After all, they've done their best by imposing on me to study Mechanical engineering. They feel the only way to succeed in life or rather have those luxuries is to study Mechanical engineering. And be like Odejimi. Each time, Odejimi became a case study used more often than a practical lecturer would have.

They succeeded that's because I never had a mind of my own. My father did all he could and I followed what he said.

It hurts me that I couldn't stand my ground and whenever I did, there was this sudden fear of the unknown. I respect my father so much and I wouldn't want to disrespect him in any form. I remember when he said I should go for that course, I told him I would rather do another thing. That another thing was what I don't know. And since I didn't know what it was, I had no option that to concur to his. I wouldn't have been a good lawyer. That's for sure cos I won't have enough evidence to prove my client innocent.

Having my views projected out while growing as a teenager was difficult. Naturally, I am a very gentle and easy going dude and wouldn't look for someone's trouble. I guess that's the attribute ladies saw in me that they would always flock around me.
Being the only child, I was catered for well enough at least to their standard. To where and what they could afford in their own seamless way. I never lacked in my own small world of fame.

That became a little barrier for me. A little barrier because I could understand sometimes whenever I needed some major materials, I know their situation. So I wouldn't want to bother them at all. Rather, it added one more bar to my motivation.
Probably, if I was the son of the rich, I would have stood my ground firmly always and anytime. That's just few out of the many teenage difficulties I faced.

I set out for the day as I would always do and was not in any mood to go job hunting. My most detested place in the village became my favourite.
I'm not doing all this because I'm the first person on earth to experience such delay. But for my aging mother. She's lying down there all day and my eyes can't stop the tears that would channel out. She has done more than enough for me till she couldn't do anymore.
And now that it's my time to do exceedingly for her, it's just not working.

"What a wicked world" I would always say gasping out the gas. Does palm wine have gas? Well it did in my own time.

Where I was seated was where I saw a hug car moving towards the palm store slowly. The gallops and hiccups on the road made it look like the car was on a festival dance. Myself and other palm wine colleagues even made jest of the situation.
The level at which my eyes were diminishing were astonishing. I never knew the moving animal had stopped as the occupants got out. I only saw a lady whose hand was at an angle of 45 degrees with a black and huge bag at the intersection. She didn't alight from the usual driver's place but this time the opposite.

It was none of my business as I stood myself up and went home to sleep. I passed through the back side so as to avoid any form of interrogation which has now become a norm.

The surprising part of this is....

I Am Not Odejimi -My Revolution Episode 8

"You remember Odejimi right? The big and famous guy that has almost everything right? Anyways why am I reminding you?" She said bent forward towards me.

"... You can never be like him. That's because your background is totally different from his. What do you know about him? And as a matter of fact, he sponsored me all through my education and he's still" snapping her fingers.

Darn! This girl has changed totally from the one I knew in the village. Little wonder I was surprised I saw her in this same school and flashing back vividly, I never for once saw her attend any of the schools in the community.

Now, I don't know neither do I have any idea what charm she has used on him. But I'm rest assured that charm is very potent. She has guts to even claim she is dating him?
Then what about the "bling bling" guy she's parading on campus? Just for a show off.

This I thought and I laughed out loud. Leaving her confused why I bloated out with such laughter. Probably, that made her so angry and she stumped out of my sight.
This laughter ushered me to where I left Rachael.
Her calmness all the while I was with Ajoke was priceless. Instead, she joined me in laughing.

"What was that?" She inquired

"Don't mind her"

I narrated everything to her and at the end, she sighed.

She offered we go to the restaurant cos she's famished. "You're always hungry" I said punching her lightly.

"Why are you always thinking?"

"I think because I need to"

Good! That's an inevitable something. She said laughing.

"So in other words you're a big time food muncho"
Smiling was the response she gave back.

I was just getting to know the sudden companion of mine that I never planned for. If there's anything she compelled me to do, that's will be my attire. She loves my Aso Oke more than anything. I remember her pay for the sew when I just got my hands on some fresh Aso Oke.

"I just love it. You are always superb whenever you are in it. And don't let anyone tell you you ain't good in it."

"Besides, has anyone ever told you how serious and matured looking you always look when you wear your attire?"

Not as anyone told me that. They only admire the style and give compliments. "You are actually the first to say so and I'm just hearing it right now. That's how intriguing it is"

School life has not been too easy. Just as life isn't one with bed of roses. You have tests, announced and unannouced. Students just unanimously decide to be naught. And then comes award nights and all other social activities that have been caved out by a special architecture just so they speed up your distraction rate.

You just have to "clenz your vocuz" in FalzTheBahdGuy's voice.

Yes, I know she has always taught me on self confidence but my course of study isn't giving me that ability to. I've always dreamt of a good life where my parents need not to struggle anymore. Then that's what I call "life is a bed of roses".

Mechanical engineering is a very fine course which I admit and a very good job to attain. No doubt.
But do I always have fun with it? It's a different thing to have passion and not have fun while serving your passion. I've thrived very hard and finally I graduated with a very good grade.

And after that comes the reality. Camp was fun or so I must say. I could remember while I was coming back from the parade, taking the narrow and lonely path, I was stumbled upon like a lion that catches its prey in an unprecedent move.

"The next time you have to say hi to my babe, it's that day you will..." The threats were like that. And I received them to the extent I was even the one threatning them.

I'm ladies guy. For what exactly and by what standard did I suddenly become ladies guy? I really don't know. But all I can deduce is that I've suddenly grown to be this refined man with beards and charisma. Yes! That's an attribute I can solely be proud of.

I can also dress to kill. This sudden rapid growth I can't explain. Never to forget my usual attire.
I've always been myself and that's what Racheal hammerred on me while in School.

We lost contact and I went on to the social media where I know I can reach her. No replies to my messages.

After my diligent service to my country, I began job hunting. And then while in the village, my father who was proud of me suggested I wait till the next Odejimi's visit.

All intended waits and visits to his father's was futile. Promises kept on rolling like drums of water and they kept failing like network test.
It's then and there I knew what pressure I just incurred on myself.

I heard life saying "Welcome my sir. You're just about to enter phase 2 of the usual challenge sir. What chapter will you like to play?"

I was so perplexed and disturbed. Not for any reason but for my dying mother. Her expectations were so high. Come to think of it, why have I not been called by any company even if it's just a missed call on my cell. I started giving up. It wasn't easy.

Two days later, I was at the farm as usual and I saw one who if I've met ordianrily by the roadside, I wouldn't by any chance recognise her.

Ajoke has suddenly become an oyimbo. She greeted from a very luxury car. I stood there amazed by the sudden transformation. After 2 minutes of interaction, I bade her bye. I couldn't stand the insult she was indirectly hurling at me.

"Was it my fault? Or was this a phase I needed to scale through?" Questions that needed rapt answers.

I Am Not Odejimi - My Evolution series 7

She took my hands and held it firmly like one who was going to the principal's office for punishment and the veins could speak at that moment, it would be shut and mute.

While on our way out, I could notice myself jested by other colleagues. Most especially for the fact that Rachael of an elegant and splendid nature was with a villager. I was made to understand that lots of guys had approached her but she didn't consent in.

Many think she's bossy. That's because her physique is almost like a footballer. But she doesn't. After walking our way down to the bursar's office, I heard her greeting like one would greet her father.

She knelt down properly like the typical African girl child would do. And she called after in a daddy manner. It was later I realised she wasn't born here. She was forced back here to start her tertiary education out of her will for reasons I don't know.

Her father is the heir to a popular throne. I was amazed when I heard her tell me all these. Most amazingly, the way she behaves shows she didn't lose her values and traits as an African child despite her upbringing.
After her father's office, we left for another lecture which is the last for the day. We sat side by side and it looks like I've never had a fun and interesting lecture before. She made the boring and sleepy hour craving.

I was so exited I was looking forward to the end of the class. I suggested we sit under a tree on one of those concrete blocks. We stayed there for hours which didn't look like half a minute compiled together.
There and then I knew I was getting a better treatment and attention from someone who sees me not like the village boy. But beyond. But I was still in love with Ajoke. How would I do that?

"You're still young for that" my father's words retorted back in my head.
"You aren't ready for commitment. Love is beyond what you see my son. Once you're committed, it goes down to what you can and have to do. Love is time"

Somewhere, somehow, the conclusion of me enjoying the time while it last popped. Just then I saw Ajoke whose neck was all round wrapped like a village snake. I excused Racheal and went to pay homage.

"Good afternoon was what I was able to say".
Staring at the man or should I say boy's physique. He's way taller than I am. Had a nice hair cut and the clothes looked very very expensive. Let me not refer to his gold chain and watch.

Immediately I uttered those words, his fantastic smile was becoming weary and oh yes! He had this thing they call dimple. Heard it once when ladies in the faculty were discussing about how they want their lovers facials to be. And I remembered the particular girl expressing hers made hand gestures like one drilling a hole in the cheeks.

He immediately excused us and told Ajoke to call him. Or maybe I didn't hear well. Call him? When did Ajoke started using telephone? Or did she bring those round rings telephone with here?

"Oh dear! I will when I'm done" she answered.

"Yeah what's up brother?" Didn't hear her well or did she just put me in the brother zone? Who was I to her? No answers that's because I was asking myself. Comport yourself repeated thrice in my head and I headed in.

"I've been searching for you all this while but you know how big the school is, I don't know where exactly to find you"

"Right down there is my lecture hall and my faculty.." She paused.
"...well, what and why have you been searching for me?"
"Now you know where to find me."

She was about walking away. Damn! That looked like been blocked a mile away by LeBron.

Didn't know what solid food I swallowed that made me draw her back from two steps away from me.

"But you know I am in the same varsity with you. Atleast you should ask after me. Why are you doing like this? Why have you suddenly changed from the Ajoke I knew" didn't know what courage I summoned there.

This time she was surprised and calm at the same time.

"Just take a look at yourself. See how dressed you are in the campus. Has it ever come accross to you how odd you are? What would I be doing with a low villager like you?"
Wait did she just say all those? A villager like me?

"But we are from the same village you're classifying lowly. It's this same village you were raised and even schooled. This same village was where you would fetch water with your pot and even take a swerve at my father's farm just so you can see me." I shouted in a tush manner.

She stood her ground firmly and she said...

Stay tuned!!!

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For The Ladies - Ignorance Isn't An Excuse

💯✔SAVE THE VAGINA NOW!!!
To maintain a healthy vagina you must know what to do to avoid infection and it is equally important to educate your sexual partner on some of them to also help you help the vagina.
Here are some few things you can do or avoid.

1. Fingering
During foreplay or romance, as part of it some people insert their finger or fingers into the vagina. The question is, how many people wash their hands before sexual intercourse? Some people do not even keep their nails clean so it gathers a lot of germs and during the fingering, these germs are deposited in the vagina...leading to infection. Same thing apply to auto pleasure acts or masturbation.

2. Anal sex
I am not here to tell anybody to have anal sex or not to but I simply want to draw the attention of those who engage in anal sex with the opposite sex that it is dangerous to have anal sex and continue having penovaginal sex. If this is done, the penis will pick bacteria from the anus and deliver them to the vagina even if you are using a condom....which will lead to infection.

3. Quest to make the vagina TIGHT
Some guys complain bitterly about the vagina of their sexual partners. They complain that it's too big and they no more feel any sensation during intercourse. Some ladies are therefore pushed to find a quick solution and in the process some use herbs or other substances in the vagina with the hope of making the vagina tight. Some of the substances cause infection or sepsis. Some of the herbs can cause the vagina to get tighter to the extent that penetration is no more possible. This will require treatment.

4. Douching
Some parents, when bathing for their baby girls put warm water in a milk tin or dip a towel in the warm water and pour the water through a hole made beneath the tin or squeeze the water out of the towel into the vagina of the baby. This is sooooo WRONG as it can damage the hymen.
Some parents also insert ginger or pepper or both into the vagina of adolescents as a form of punishment. This is sooooo WRONG as it can lead to infection.
Some people are use to bathing by adding dettol or other detergents to the water and they put this solution inside the vagina with the help of sponge or towel or just the hand with soap to clean the vagina. This is soooo WRONG as it will change the normal flora in the vagina, leading to infection.

5. Use of water closet
Some people have the habit of not sitting on the seat of the WC when using it so they end up urinating on the seat. The possibility of picking infection when using it in that condition is high. Don't let your pant be at the thigh level when using the WC especially the public ones as the inner of the pant may rub the surface of the WC. Where the water is not running and people have used but have not flushed and you don't have any choice but to also use it, use enough toilet roll to cover before using the WC to avoid any splashes on the vulva.

6. Washing and drying
Develop the habit of disinfecting your panties frequently...depending on the number of pants you have. Keep exclusive panties to wear whenever you are menstruating and don't mix those panties with your regular panties. Pay particular attention to those panties when washing. Ensure that the panties are made of cotton and are dried in the sun or well ironed to kill germs.

7. Change sanitary pads
Some people try to economize the use of their sanitary pads so during the period they tend to still wear the pad because there is little or no blood. This is soooo WRONG as it can lead to infection.

NB: If there is any bad scent from the vagina or there is a discharge coming from the vagina then it might be an infection which you have to have it treated.
Help save the vagina by ensuring that you get the message to as many friends as possible. Help save the vagina by getting the message to your sexual partner or sisters.❤❤

Some Wrongs Before The Rights

"I can't continue any longer with you. I can no longer keep up with your infidelity. It's not what I thought it would be after all." Those were the words that were uttered from a wife and mother of 5 children.

She thought getting married to him will make everything better and even having children for him.
There's no morning she doesn't wake to shout. Due to her ignorance. Living in a rented and indecent apartment. This weren't her hopes and the brighter future she wanted.
"Things will get better were all the things he said to her".
Asides from quarrelling over little things which ordinarily shouldn't, he once said "Maybe you weren't just meant to be mine".

P.S: This is an excerpt from one of my underground project.

The best things of life are so free. Take a good look at life! Life; you don't need to pay for it. Likewise you're breathe. Isn't God too wonderful?
When your hopes are high towards something, it's very possible you don't get what you want. This is so because your level of anxiety is aroused and you might mistake the wrong one for the right.

The woman I question here has always wished for a beautiful and bright future. A learned and well educated woman who went for her "dreams" and fell into the wrong hands of monsters in sheep clothing. She took this ambition too far by getting pregnant for her lover. Of course she was so sure he was the right one for her.

And after all said and done, she thought everything will be so good in marriage. His attitudes will change when they are together under the same roof.

No matter how bad or good a partner is, once you notice some bad characters while courting and you've talked it out with them, and yet no sign of pisitive change(s) instead, it's derailing; then you need to go for counselling or do what's right. No two wrongs can make a right and no high negetavity slide can make the positive make good impact.

You just have to be wise when choosing and selecting. It's cool to play the "hard-to-get" game. But when it becomes way too much, do something about it. Most dudes are not willing to be the reason for their predicament but they just need a listening ear and someone who will believe in them.

Guys cry! I hope you know that! As fragile as the woman's heart looks, so it the man. We just tend to have a bold face and that's why we are men.

Ladies, when choosing, make sure you pray fervently and be spiritually alert. It shouldn't even take a long time before you know he's the one or she's the one. That peace sign will be so imminent and you will know they are the right one.

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I Am Sorry

I'm so sorry to have been off for a while now.

Having some underground works to complete. Projects and other personal works. Please bear with me.

Hopefully, I will be back soon.

Thanks for your understanding Fans. Love y'all!!!

Sex Is Good! But.....!!!

Sex! As sweet as it sounds. It's portrayed everywhere. On the TV screens. Through unpleasant music videos.
Sex goes beyond what we think. It goes beyond the opening of the female genitals for the free passage of the manhood. Sex is more spiritual than physical. It's not all about the pleasure you derive. Are you fulfilled spiritually? Likewise free and clean spiritually? Do you feel haunted after several sex pleasures? Do you feel haunted like you killed someone? You suddenly see surprising attitudes from yourself that you've never seen before? Things you could do, you couldn't do no more? And things you've always wished you could accomplish, they became much easier for you?

I could go on and ask. But all these drives down to SEX. When you enter a woman, you've shared her too. And vice versa. Yes! You derive the pleasure and you forget the everlasting displeasure you get later. That's if done wrongly or not accordingly.

I'm not to disgust you or accuse anybody. Neither am I to judge or point fingers at anyone. Everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion. And this is mine here........

There is no Hebrew or Greek word used in the Bible that precisely refers to sex before marriage. The Bible undeniably condemns adultery and sexual immorality, but is sex before marriage considered sexually immoral? According to 1 Corinthians 7:2, “yes” is the clear answer: “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband In this verse, Paul states that marriage is the “cure” for sexual immorality. First Corinthians 7:2 is essentially saying that, because people cannot control themselves and so many are having immoral sex outside of marriage, people should get married. Then they can fulfill their passions in a moral way.

Since 1 Corinthians 7:2 clearly includes sex before marriage in the definition of sexual immorality, all of the Bible verses that condemn sexual immorality as being sinful also condemn sex before marriage as sinful. Sex before marriage is included in the biblical definition of sexual immorality. There are numerous Scriptures that declare sex before marriage to be a sin (Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes complete abstinence before marriage. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations of which God approves (Hebrews 13:4).

Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing that there is another aspect—procreation. Sex within marriage is pleasurable, and God designed it that way. God wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity within the confines of marriage. Song of Solomon and several other Bible passages (such as Proverbs 5:19) clearly describe the pleasure of sex. However, the couple must understand that God’s intent for sex includes producing children. Thus, for a couple to engage in sex before marriage is doubly wrong—they are enjoying pleasures not intended for them, and they are taking a chance of creating a human life outside of the family structure God intended for every child.

While practicality does not determine right from wrong, if the Bible's message on sex before marriage were obeyed, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, far fewer abortions, far fewer unwed mothers and unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children growing up without both parents in their lives. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and, most importantly, honors God.

Sex is sweet! Beautiful! But with the right person!!!

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He's Funny! Good Enough...?

"I was star struck when I met him at first."

Those were her words of regret as she told her best friend. Although she was warned but she didn't heed to those wise words. She felt at that time, it just didn't mean anything. Only if they could see what she was seeing.

"When you're in love, everything becomes blind. You become blind to their deepest negatives and even unhealthy flaws."

Her friend replied her back as she laid her head on her shoulder for comfort.
She kept on wailing in tears. She couldn't hold them back. So it was best she let them out as much as no one is ready to step on the brakes.

What's it you want to do now?."
I just don't know. If I knew, I wouldn't be here like this. See the way am tattered and unpleasing."

A big sigh as her friend patted her. After few minutes of silence,
"What was that significance you saw in him that made you run head over heels for him?" that statement broke the long silence.

"He's such a nice guy. He's too good to have done this to me."

"And you think I will sit her with you to believe that's the only quality you saw that caught you off your trail?."
"...there are so many nice guys out there. As a matter of fact, I met one just yesterday and I could smell his nice attitude from far." she continued.

Still in her sober state, "he makes me laugh. He sweeps me off my feet always and it always seemed I couldn't get enough of him. His humour is outta here."

"I never ever ever thought he was a beast. And he decided to unleash that beastly side of his on me? I didn't blink my brain twice to see he was married. There was no ring anywhere found at least mistakenly on his finger. He was too young for me to even think of that and worst of it, he has 3 kids. They are all in the State with his wife!." she yelled and squeezed her face into the pillow.

As if the pillow can open and swallow her right away. Not the ground this time around.

"Just take it easy sweetheart. Everything will be fine soon. I've always known you all my life as a very strong lady that can't be intimidated by whatsoever. It's a phase of life you just needed to pass through and now you've learnt the lessons it came with."

Those words went like a cold water down her spine. It's the bitter pill she needed to chew and use Coca-cola to wash it down her guts.

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The lady in question found out he was married through his Facebook account. You know how they say Social media don't forget. Although she almost caught his red pants secret when he received a call once he was with her. But her guts quickly dismissed the thought like a soldier been dismissed by his commandant.

If the situation was just that, it would have been a disease that could be cured instantly. Though it might take time to forget.
But not only did he jilt her, he disvirgined her and she's pregnant for him. He claimed he never loved her. You enforced yourself on me.
Those were always his words. Till he breezed out of the country, he never told her. She found out through his friend she met just once.

Now she has to bear the child and go through single parenting. He might later realise his mistake and comeback for her. Maybe soon or later. I guess Rihanna's "emergency room" would be her theme song.

P.S: STORY IS ALL MINE AND WASN'T COPPED ANYWHERE. SO SAVE THE HARSH WORDS.

What led her on?

He's a nice guy and very charming. According to her. And he makes her laugh.

What was her mistake perhaps?

She wasn't patient to know him well enough. She was blinded by those temporary attributes.

Like they say and I quote "A funny dude is ideal for a woman"

Or so they think. The best way to stop that lady from playing hard to get is to make her laugh. Crack her ribs and be the Alibaba in her life. Maybe it works for some and all.
You see, because he's nice, cute, charming and funny doesn't mean he will make a million yard husband material. I've heard of scenerios where a guy is funny as anything but still beats his wife at any little misunderstanding.
The funny thing is, guys are good at leading ladies on and when they get halfway, they realise she's not the right person or they can't get down with her.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Those words are GOLD.
You can't help but to notice his physical attribute(s). They are good. He's the son of the next billionnaire and even has mansions everywhere. He's plans is to run for presidency. All those are good fortunes. But what happens when you get into the same home with him? After he has put that ring in your finger? Now you're stucked. You don't know what next to do. You're confused. One day happiness and the next day arguements.

He gets angry and the way to aplogise is to come back with flowers. Wow! That's sweet right? But for how long are you willing to deal with that? When next an arguement gets heated, you already know his next move. Flowers! Gifts!!

Don't fall into such trap. What do you do?
Go on your knees and pray. There's nothing prayer cannot change. Picture the type of man you want. The type of woman you choose to be with.
I was speaking to a woman lately and she said she prayed for the town and state she want her husband to originate from. And she got what she wanted. It's not too late to start praying for those now. Don't wait until you think you're ready for a realtionship. By then, you begin to fall prey. That's because you will be experimenting here and there. At the time you want to be careful.
But when you pray, at the time you think you're ready to settle down, he just comes at that moment. Isn't that cute enough?

LET'S LIBERATE OURSELVES FROM DUBIOUS THINKING AND ASSUMPTIONS. WE CAN CHOOSE THE TYPE OF PARTNER WE WANT TO SETTLE WITH FOREVER OR SERVE AS PART TIME. THE CHOICE IS YOURS AND YOURS ALONE.

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