Not everyone looks forward to celebrate the day of love and of lovers. And I am not talking about single or broken-hearted people. I am talking about those couples who have felt their relationships slipping out of their fingers and are only left with good-old-day memories of how their previous days were enjoyed with love and honeymoon tactics (plenty, plenty calling, love texting and pillow talks have now become squeezed-in ‘how are you’ texts).
You need to bring the spark back into your relationship and though it might sound corny, this Valentine’s WEEKEND is the perfect opportunity.
1.) Take Your Mind Off Sex:
When was the last time you truly went heart-to-heart? You speak to each other every day but do you really talk?
How well have you gotten to know each other in the past time that you have just been speaking? Talking does not mean to just bring up the subject of your almost-dead relationship (you can try that afterwards but not now). You may end up fighting (unless that is what you want) and breaking up.
The two of you change as time goes on and so talking about each other’s aspirations, or for instance, career projections, could help you figure out how you have individually changed and what has influenced that change.
More importantly, you could subtly pick up on whether the other values your relationship or not. Talking could also get you to remember the good old days and bring up sweet memories. It will increase your level of intimacy towards each other depending on which topics you focus on (you should know the volatile topics by now)
2. Stop Everything
…and concentrate on your partner. The spark is probably out because of your busy schedules but the weekend should be reserved for the two of you just for the sake of your relationship. This counts as special because you choose to focus on your time together.
Your partner will definitely appreciate the effort. During this time together, do not allow technology to ruin it. Technology has become the devil of relationships today; just do not allow it to reign in yours for the length of the time you will spend together.
You both must understand that your time together is special and supremely important over every other thing or person (make room for contingencies though)
3. Do Something New
And make sure it is something both of you enjoy. You have already sacrificed your time to be together so do not sacrifice your happiness. A lot of people in relationships do things they do not because they enjoy them but simply because it is at their partner’s bidding.
While that is wonderful (to compromise amicably) and hopefully reciprocal (of course, it should be even), that time for sacrifice is not now. A great way to spice up your relationship is to break out in new activities together and explore something different and perhaps unfamiliar.
You are going to get the thrill of experiencing something you both may be uncertain about but it is a great opportunity to rely on each other’s instincts to survive in the new activity thereby shooting up the level of trust in your partner. Which new activity will you enjoy exploring with your partner?
If you truly want to save your relationship, you both should find ways to make it wonderful. Any one of you should take the initiative and make it work.