I Satisfy My Daughter Sexually. She Doesn't Need Any Man. REALLY?

Was surfing through Facebook and I cam across a shared post. I couldn't desist my eyes from what I saw. My brain still passing the message down my spine with my mouth opened. I heaved a heavy sigh.

I mean, that caption sounds irritating and unacceptable to me. I don't know of you. I detest against such. Well, anyone who is in his/her right thinking drive will know it's so wrong, awkward and absurd.
If you can read through the lines, you will know something is wrong.

I've always been asked like an African mother will tell her son. Why haven't you married? Yeah! That's the question. Mine is a bit different from that. Why are you single? You want to know? Contact me personally and I will tell you.

I remember when God instituted marriage. He never said thy shall leave your mother and cling to your father. He said for you shall leave your father and mother and cling together to be one. I don't want to believe the only or major reason why we want to marry is for sex. It is also written "because of sexual immorality, every man should get himself a wife and a woman get herself a husband." 1 Cor 7:2.

Asides that, there are many things marriage entails. The creation of marriage is
recorded in Genesis 2:23-24: "The
man said, ‘This is now bone of my
bones and flesh of my flesh; she
shall be called “woman,” for she
was taken out of man.’ For this
reason a man will leave his father
and mother and be united to his
wife, and they will become one
flesh." Like I mentioned earlier on.

God created man and then
made woman to complement him.
Marriage is God’s “fix” for the fact
that “it is not good for the man to
be alone” Genesis 2:18.
I am addressing this because there are right now many wrong perceptions about marriage. And it's a pity Teenagers are beginning to fall victim of these. The rate at which teenagers hunger for this is quite alarming.

Yes! We all want to get married. But the question is DO YOU WANT TO BE GET MARRIED AND BE HAPPY?

Haha! I know your answer already. Yes! Nobody wants anything bad. As you've wished that, what knowledge do you have about marriage? For the fact that popular and humble Nollywood actress Omotola-Jalade Ekeinde got married at an early age. In fact, as a teenager; doesn't mean yours too will be as Rossy as hers.
You don't know what has been covered and how many things has been covered.
In fact, here and right now I have a perfect picture of how I want my own home and family to be. We all have that mapped out right? But sometimes it doesn't always be as we've planned it to be.

And that leads me to these questions.

1. What do know as marriage? Are you planning for a wedding or marriage?

2. What are your visions and perspective as being a mother and a wife, a husband and a father?

3. Can you maintain a home?

4. What are certain measures you take when it comes to family?

5. Can you switch from being a boss at work and being a wife and mother at home?

I could go on and on. Can you find answers to those? It isn't all about having children. It's all about being happy, growth and finding who you really are.

Mind you, I'm not a therapist neither am I marriage counsellor. I can only do my best within my own knowledge and God's directions.

DASSALL

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Why Steal From What's Yours III. Concluding Part.

I didn't have intentions to prolong this article. I guess when God isn't through with you, you just have to move along with his flow.

If you've been following the post, then you know what I have been emphasizing. It's a misplace conception about what the "society" portrayed or protrays around most especially through media whic should be of more good than harm.

There's no two words to describe SEX before marriage other than FORNICATION. And for whatever reasons you need to react through actions, there are always consequences.

There are many consequences that
result from being disobedient to
God when it comes to FORNICATION.
First of all you are defiling His holy
temple as we saw earlier in 1
Corinthians 6:19. Would you go
into a church and vandalize the
sanctuary? That is the same thing
as defiling your body, which is a
temple of the Holy Spirit. Another
consequence is unwanted
pregnancy. Statistics have
skyrocketed into a negative
direction as a result of fornication. If
people would save sex until
marriage, there never would have
been a movement to legalize
abortion which is also sin. Abortion
came about as a result of man
trying to cover up sin. Due to
disobedience to God, approximately
46 million babies have been aborted
since 1973.

The current count for
abortions in the U.S. per year stands
at 1.3 million. Due to fornication, 40
percent of babies are born out of
marriage yearly. That is a 30
percent increase from just twenty
years ago. Due to fornication over
65 million people in the US have a
viral STD with nearly 19 million new
cases each year. Percentage wise,
nearly half of people will contract an
STD in their lifetime.
Fornication also relates to why 50%
of marriages end in divorce. This is
because many go into marriage with
wounded emotions, spirits, and
diseased bodies. When you decide
to lie with someone outside of
marriage, stop and think about
whether you want to get married
some day or not. If you are like most
people, you will desire marriage at
some point. The day may come
when you have found the love you
have always dreamed of but having
to face that person and tell them of
all the prior partners and sexually
transmitted diseases that you are
dragging into your marriage may
not go over too well and can be
devastating...especially if your
potential spouse's background is at
the opposite end of the spectrum.

Therefore, many marriages begin
with two strikes against it already if
the relationship does not die
before making it to the altar. When
you choose to fornicate, you sin
against your own body and against
a possible future spouse. There are
many cases of a spouse having a life
long struggle with their mate's
promiscuity.

If you are a woman, think about if
you desire having kids some day.
100,000 to 150,000 women
become infertile each year as a
result of STDs. And if you do not
become infertile, some STDs can
cause your child to be born with
defects such as blindness. Don't
make your child suffer because of
your disobedience to God. Even if a
child has no physical defect, a single
parent home can cause them to
have emotional scars due to lack of
love from a mother and a father.

Yorubas will say "O ba. Ko ti baje".
There's always a way out. And that way is REPENTANCE.

For God gives warning to the fate of
fornicators that do not repent, "But
the cowardly, unbelieving,
abominable, murderers, sexually
immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all
liars shall have their part in the lake
which burns with fire and
brimstone, which is the second
death." - Revelation 21:8.
"Marriage is honorable among all,
and the bed undefiled; but
fornicators and adulterers God will
judge." - Hebrews 13:4. If you
have committed fornication and
lived a promiscuous lifestyle, don't
beat yourself up, just repent while
you still have time. Many factors
may have contributed to you being
that way but you can make a
complete change. If you will confess
your sins and repent, God is willing
to wash it all away. Jesus paid the
price for all sins when He died on
the cross. Do not allow His sacrifice
to be a waste in your life. Repent
now and become a born again
virgin. "Repent ye therefore, and be
converted, that your sins may be
blotted out, when the times of
refreshing shall come from the
presence of the Lord." - Acts 3:19.
After you have repented, fast and
pray so that God will give you the
power to reject temptation. Find
someone that you trust that can
hold you accountable. That person
can encourage you during your walk
with God.
There are many cases in the Bible
when God used women who were
harlots for His cause. Rahab was a
prostitute in Jericho. She hid the
Israelite spies that came to take
over her city. For this act, she and
her family were spared during the
invasion. Her faith was commended
in Hebrews 11:31 and she is even
listed in the genealogy of Jesus
Christ. Tamar is another example;
she played the harlot by seducing
Judah but is also listed in the
genealogy of Jesus Christ. These
examples were not given to glorify
fornication but to show that God can
use anyone and is willing to forgive
if you will turn to Him.

Having sex outside of marriage can lead to
severe consequences such as
unwanted pregnancy, abortion,
incurable STDs, losing the person
you would like to marry, divorce,
having a child with birth defects,
becoming infertile, and demonic
possession. And on top of all of that,
you are defiling the temple that
belongs to Christ.

Before giving in,
ask yourself is it worth it?

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Why Steal From What's Yours? II

Or maybe I need to rephrase that. WHY STEAL FROM WHAT'S MEANT TO BE YOURS?

Yes and right. That egg was meant to be mine. As a matter of fact it was mine. That represents your partner. Either you know or have met them. It has a simple logic. There's no human that doesn't get hungry. So in that, we eat to satisfy and grow ourselves. Likewise SEX. We have urges at different times and awkward times. But we can subdue that. Once you activate, you won't stop having urges.

SEX before marriage becomes more like an addiction especially to those who don't even have plans of settling down. You will ask some and they will say "please I just want to have my time while I'm still here". Another when asked will say "life is beautiful and the ladies in it. So I want to enjoy both". You hear funny overrated things which shouldn't be accepted no matter what.
In my previous post, I said I was going to talk about sex problems. Which may be premature ejaculation and all. I don't want to dwell too much in that. But God who brought you bot together knows definitely there's a solution somewhere. He won't bring you this far and leave you halfway so you deal with it all alone. Some are lessons to be learned and some others; to prove God is supreme.

SEX before marriage. You're sharing a whole lot of things with the other person. They might not manifest immediately but they sure are waiting for you until you seek genuine repentance from God. You've wondered why you aren't progressing spiritually? You wonder why you suddenly started acting strange?

Do you not know that your bodies
are members of Christ? Shall I then
take the members of Christ and
make them members of a harlot?
Certainly not! Or do you not know
that he who is joined to a harlot is
one body with her? For "the two,"
He says, "shall become one flesh."
But he who is joined to the Lord is
one spirit with Him. Flee sexual
immorality. Every sin that a man
does is outside the body, but he
who commits sexual immorality sins
against his own body. Or do you not
know that your body is the temple
of the Holy Spirit who is in you,
whom you have from God, and you
are not your own? For you were
bought at a price; therefore glorify
God in your body and in your spirit,
which are God's. - 1 Corinthians
6:15-20.

Another one...
Yes, you read that scripture
correctly, he that has sex with a
harlot (prostitute) becomes one
body with her. And since she has
had multiple partners that became
one with her, you become one with
all of them. By committing
fornication you are taking what
belongs to Christ and giving it to
whoredom. This scripture does not
apply just to harlots. It applies to
everyone. This is why Apostle Paul
stated the following, "lest, when I
come again, my God will humble me
among you, and I shall mourn for
many who have sinned before and
have not repented of the
uncleanness, fornication, and
lewdness which they have
practiced". - 2 Corinthians 12:21.
He refers to this behavior as
uncleanness. God speaks strongly
against fornication throughout the
Bible. It is not a gray area that He
tip-toes around. There are
numerous passages that forbid
fornication. "But fornication and all
uncleanness or covetousness, let it
not even be named among you, as
is fitting for saints;" - Ephesians
5:3. God even refers to evil nations
as harlots, "For true and righteous
are His judgments, because He has
judged the great harlot who
corrupted the earth with her
fornication; and He has avenged on
her the blood of His servants shed
by her." - Revelation 19:2.

In my next and ending post, I will highlight the consequences and to those who think they've lost their virginity and all is lost. Hang on! There's still hope.

Why Steal From What's Yours?

What I'm about to say: doesn't mean I support or disagree with anything. It's just my opinions being aired.

I must admit I am a big time food lover. Can't get to quit eating in volumes because of exercises. At least, if I have to have a fat belly it means I am rich. LOL! Just as my favorite part of my father's house is the kitchen and I'm actually thinking when my house is to be designed, well... You know the rest.

You might have heard of this statement one way or the other. "HOW DO YOU STEAL FROM WHAT'S YOURS?"
Yeah! That's right. There's no misappropriated word there.

I made egg sauce this morning without me having my bathe yet. I did that so once I'm done cleaning myself, I will have that wonderful breakfast without delay. Joyfully, I diced and sliced all the neccesities and BOOM! It was done in few minutes.
Meanwhile, I had to run errands for my Dad and serve his breakfast too. Waiting for the kettle's whistle, I noticed the egg staring at me and I couldn't get my supposed glance off. It was so attractive.

Then an idea halted into me. Eat litle out of it. It's yours. So why waste your time? I didn't even give it half a second thought before I started picking from the edges.

You're getting bored right?

To cut everything short, it dawned on me that since the egg was mine and I had made it in a nice way I shouldn't have done that! Why? That's the question I asked out aloud like I had another partner there.

What's mine will be mine right? No doubt because no thief whatsoever, whosoever and from whereever will have permission to what's mine. I wanted to satisfy my immediate urge of hunger which literally I wasn't hungry that much. But suddenly, with the sight of the egg sauce it looked like I was an ulcer patient. Eventually, when I was set and done to devour the breakfast, I wasn't fulfilled. I mean I wasn't satisfied. I had to look for another support.

That's how SEX is. SEX is like an everlasting magnet which sometimes doesn't have a repel force. It's always attracting no matter the pole. Some says being a celibate works. Cool! With the help of God. And can I add that if you don't decide deep down in your heart to be a celibate, you won't achieve it.

Some says SEX before marriage is not bad. As a matter of fact, it's appropriate. To some cultures and beliefs, it's to know If your man is strong enough in bed or impotent and to some is to know if your woman to be is really a virgin.
I want to believe that what God created is beautiful. All his creations have reasons and that's why he gave us dominion over all. He said we are the apple of his eye so I see no reason why God will give you something which is bad.

You don't need to have SEX before you know the woman or man you really want to be. The problem is once your SEX mode has been activated, your sex urge(s) are not going to stop coming. Infact they will embark on full rage of armies displaced all around you left with no option than to surrender. You seriously don't need SEX as a determinant of whom you will marry. SEX is more spiritual than physical. It is beyond just the opening of the female organs for the grand entry of the male organs.

You might want to ask me. What if you find out your partner or yourself is having SEX problems?

I will give details in my next post.

Who Am I?

Sometimes I wonder why I have to exist. And why I even still exist. What has my existence ever done to the planet earth? Does it even look like I'm here to make any difference at all?

This and many more question has one way or the other found creepy legs in our thoughts. There's virtually no human that can detest that. There's a new trend outside that goes "who you epp?". And if you will ask yourself. Who has existence "epp"?
Even Judas who betrayed Jesus; the betrayal wouldn't have taken place if he had no existence So you see, one way or the other our existence means something. For good or for bad.

Often times we decide to choose lucre which are absolutely bad. We chase after what's not and what isn't for us. You just can't run another man's race. It's so impossible. And when you're down on your knees, it almost seem like God is taking a nap or the transportation of your prayers are having technical issues. Don't you worry for long. They will move at a faster pace once you you do what's right. We pray sometimes for what God never said we should. And we ask sometimes for the right things at the wrong time. And most of all, we ask for the wrong things and the wrong time.
Only if God can take a cite a day as excursion for we humans to see what store room each and every one has. The beauty and riches we have in Christ. We can't accomplish anything without him. And that brings me to the question

WHO AM I?

Until you can answer that question, we will keep wandering in circles without any way out. He problem with humans is impatience. We are so impatient that often times we tend to duplicate what others have done. And believe since it worked for them, definitely it can work for you. Yes! The most consistent saying is "keep believing. Just because someone has succeeded in that field doesn't mean you too can't".

That's right. But is that actually your field of success? That's the question that should be on our lips.

Scientist have it that whenever sperm is released through the man's ejaculation, and it hits the woman's egg(s), there's a function of light spark. Now it takes the fastest sperm to cause such reaction and to fertilize the woman's egg. Isn't that more than a race? Millions of sperm are released in an ejaculation and just one needs to do the fertilization.

What does this mean to you?

It means at the man's ejaculation, there's a release of gun shot which serves as the beginning of the race for million of sperm. And at the spark of light on the woman's egg signifies a sign of victory.

Jeremiah 1 vs 5 says "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations".

So before the man even ejaculated, there has been a designated sperm that will win the race. For that sperm to fertilize the egg which brings about you and I, God has a better plan for you and I.
So you see why you can't afford to covet? You see why you need to stay in your own lane? Why you need not to make life hard?
I do say to people. Life isn't hard. It's we humans in it that choose to make life hard and complicated.

Knowing who you can take a long process and vice versa. Whichever, depends on you. Asking God for directions and to make his purpose in your life known is one way to go about it.

Know what you want and what you need. This way, it helps you know the rubbish from the trash. And the sense in every nonsense.

Knowing who you are, absolutely makes you be at ease when setting your goals. And not just setting them, accomplishing them. If Nigeria as a nation doesn't know it's worth, probably it would have copied China's budget or even the great America.

Knowing who you are depends on your inner self. It doesn't just happen at the split of seconds. You won't confuse your existence with anybody's.

Dig deep and go out to reach people who can help you define yourself. Who can see every good in every wrongs you make. No two wrongs can make a right. Be careful who you roll with. Be careful who you share your self with because there are many wolf in sheep clothing.

Be rest assured that the assignment God has ordained for you will surely come to pass irrespective of any bad plans. Also know God hasn't called us out to pray out our plans; but to pray out his purpose.

REMEMBER WHOSE YOU'RE, WHERE YOU COME FROM, WHERE YOU'RE HEADED, WHO LIVES INSIDE OF YOU AND WHERE YOU REPRESENT

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I Am Not Odejimi - My Evolution Episode 11

I considered that as the joke of the century. Why would I remember myself first? I wasn't brought up to be selfish. I was taught to help others in any little way you can. God blessed some so they can bless others. That blessing isn't meant to be enjoyed alone. That's why it's called blessings.

But when Lagos was grooving, the reverse was the case. I considered what I called a joke the reality. It wasn't long it dawned on me life can end before you blink your eye half way in a quarter second. Life is sweet and meant to be enjoyed. Life is adorable. Life is beautiful and it is meant to be explored to the fullest.

"Eyan le ku at any goddamn time" was what I always said.

I made few contact and always got in touch with my parents in the village. I call this place home. But this home is so crazy if you aren't wise, you won't be taught so. Lagos, amongst its hustling and bustling always had its own down time.
The traffic here is so depressing I almost thought we were headed heaven. The queue for everything and other parts obstinate. The different voices of men you will hear from 360 degrees of you will make you wonder if you're actually safe.

Kemi had secured a place for me in a major oil company and all I needed was just to show up nice, well mannered and early enough for the interview. Yeah! She had great and influential contacts well, respectable from her husband to be. For a whole week, she took me round the major places I needed to know.
The fun part of this was when she were descending the foot bridge and she told me to place my bag right in front of me. I never understood what she said.
My people will say "a ti k'fa nle ifa tin se" which means the much predicted thing had happened before much has been said. I hope I got that right.


My first day in office. Well I was looking forward to that. Less work at least for a starter other than errands. I was placed in a cool office like I was in charge of the whole building. Didn't take up to 30minutes or less before I knew what work actually meant. No time to smile. As a matter of fact, I forgot when I was called for lunch. I was obscure and nervous of the surrounding too and the kind of people I will work with. Thankfully, I scaled through successfully and a job well done was delivered by me.

Months into years and I became the much talked about in the company. I once heard my zeal towards whatever I did was nothing that has ever been seen. I became so over worked I forgot mama and papa in the village. Yes! Now I hardly even call them twice in 3 months. I even heard my mother is hale and hearty. All thanks to God.

The last time I visited the village was when I Kemi insisted I do so. Not for any reason but because she was visiting her in-laws and she thought it deem fit for me to visit my parents too.
I made sure I built a good house for them and did everything I promised I would do.

"Papa, my work time and everything I'm doing there won't make me visit here frequently." I said sitting on a smaller cane chair as we sat facing each other.
When the look on mama's face became worrisome, I decided I bring her to Lagos. My father has always been a man and I believe he won't miss his darling wife much. We joked about that.

I made some gestures to my mum and she quite understood how terrific Lagos could be. So she won't miss her husband, she always made use of the home phone to call her darling. From there I knew love was a beautiful thing. When built on a strong foundation, it keeps increasing its deck. It's an unending thing I wished same for me. Thank God she didn't actually do the normal talk the typical African mother will do.

"When will I be expecting my grand child?"
She tried raising such issue and I love my mother for what she did after my response to that.
I told her I love and appreciate the way she takes care of my father even when they aren't together.
I told her if she had me rushed, will she expect me to fall into wrong hands? And have me wailing at the end? If I have to rush into marriage, will she be ready to come in anytime we have little misunderstamdings? Was she ready to solve minute issues? Was she ready for my nags? Because at the end, I will have her to blame.

"My son. You're just like your father. Whatever you insists on doing, you make sure nobody takes your gaze off."

" I understand you so well. And you know quite well that I love children. If I still have the strength, at my age I will ask your father for more" she said

We joked about it and she promised not to bug me about it anymore.

It was past 11 in the night I received a call from my department boss that I have to report to the office before 6am. "Before 6 in the morning? What for sir?"

My mother shifted her gaze from the TV to me and was eager to know what exactly and why I had to scream.
As usual, iya mi the caring one asked in a conforming manner and I told her how tedious my job is. It's not like I have any other elsewhere but I'm not just getting it at all. I'm not being comfortable with what I do for a living. I hardly have a time of my own. Now that I'm not married, I wonder how I will be keeping up.

All these I laid down to her like football rules.

"And do you know what I will ask you to do?" Was what I heard in a manly voice.

Love Is Beautiful

It hurt to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find that courage to let that person know how you feel.
Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person we will know how to be grateful for that gift.

Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance in a relationship and find out you still care for that person. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you only to find out it was never meant to be so you just have to let go.

When the door of happiness closes another opens but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us. The best kind of friend is the kind you can just be with, never say a word and then walk away feeling like it's the best conversation you've ever had.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they love you back. Don't expect love in return. Just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content that it grew in yours. There are things you will love to hear but you will never hear from the person you would like to hear them from.
But don't be so deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from their heart.

Never say goodbye if you still want to try. Never give up if you still feel you can go on. Never say you don't love a person anymore if you can't let go.
Love comes to those who still hope; although they've been dissapointed. To those who still believe; although they've been betrayed. To those who still need to love; although they've been hurt before. And to those who still have the courage and the hope to build trust again.

It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone. An hour to like someone and a day to love someone. But it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who let's you smile because it takes only a smile to make dark days bright.

HOPE YOU FIND SOMEONE THAT MAKES YOU SMILE....!!!!

PEAZOUT!!! DASSALL!!!

I Am Not Odejimi - My Evolution Episode 10

I neglected my Christian faith like a useless trash can. I became someone who would give God conditions. If you do this, I will stop such habit. I've allowed myself to be tossed greatly by the devil and as it mattered, I've completely lost my faith. This wasn't the way I was taught and brought up. This I know. And even in this trying time, my father just mentioned a little of life examples. I wonder where he heard those from.

I had fallen asleep when I heard a bang on the door. I only had to tighten my seatbelt like one who was inclined when the plane is set for take off.
There came another bang and this time came louder propelled with a stronger force.
I struggled out of the bed like a child not wanting to go to school.
I headed straight to the door and it was my mother. She asked me what I would love to eat and get it prepared.
Still rubbing my eyes and getting myself stable I ordered for anything I couldn't even remember vividly.

Minutes later, it was done and there came another bang on the door. I reluctantly stood up but this time not delayed because I've been prepared for what's coming the next round.
As I stood up from my bed, I reached for both the door and the food. Got a basin and was set for the battle.
She knew I was famished as she prepared my favourite. I washed my hand thoroughly and dipped it into the iyan.

Just then I received a tap on my right arm.

"So it was a dream all through?"

As the usual African father would conclude, it's a spiritual attack. After I narrated what the dream was.

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Days later, I set myself on some things I wouldn't do anymore. And with the help of my true self and commitment, I was able to meet up with my habit goals.

"My friend! What's his name sef?" A panting voice cried behind me.

I turned to see if it was me after all, I wasn't the only visible guy walking in that period.
As I looked back, it was my previous colleague at the palm wine joint. As usual, dressed in my aso oke.
He asked to know why I haven't been present at the joint as usual.

"Do you always mark register? Why must I be there always?" I answered in an irritating manner.

"Haba! If anyone amongst us has offended you let us know. And I personally..." I cut him off

"See Ige. Nobody offended me. Not at all. I just decided not to come over there. Been busy on the farm."

"Oh! I see" nodding his head.

"Yes! You see"

I told him I will be paying visits once a while. Just had to let him go cos he's the basketmouth type. If he isn't satisfied, he won't let go of me.

Where was I headed to? Nowhere. I was a wanderer at that time and taking a left turn, I saw the same car I saw the other day. I walked past it and I saw a lady, a guy and two elderly people all seated on a cane chair. I greeted the elderly people seated and was about taking two steps before I heard aso oke.

That was the name I was given in varsity obviously due to my attire. At first, I thought it was the elderly people because their farm isn't far from ours. I turned back and answered with a forceful smile while wondering how they came accross that name.

"Please come" this I heard clearly. This time it didn't sound like an elderly voice. At first I was reluctant.
I dragged my feet towards their direction before I was amazed by the fading remeberance of the face I saw.
I pretended while trying to remember where and when I saw that face.

"AgbaAkin right?"

"Yes ma! You are very correct."

I suddenly became the correspondent to a faded questionnaire.
Finally I was able to gather all event and recollect who it was.
But I was ashamed. Why was I? Was I meant to be ashamed?

Been the brilliant type in school, the modest and all sort of good qualities, I should have been the least of who will still be at home job hunting.

"Abi. Ki ni mo fe se? What will I do?"

Kemi Miss campus. She always go along with entourage. I mean her friends. That's because wherever and whenever she walked past, guys would always beckon her. And whenever she's beckoned, she will politely decline their request. So the entourage will also use that as an added advantage for themselves.

She reached for her card in her bag and I promised to call her.

We bade the final bye. That's not the final bye though.

" So Kemi will be getting married soon." I said to myself staring at the gold and shiny business card.

That position I met her doesn't look more or lesser than an introduction. They guy had brought her to his parents. And the ring on her middle finger said it all.

"Anyways" I shrugged and walked back taking the short route back home.

I called as promised the follwong morning. And her secretary answered the phone. I was then transferred to her.
We spoke for hours asking after everybody. Those contacts she has and I don't have and vice versa.
She even confessed that she once had a crush on me back then in school. But she's way passed that now. She made mention of I would only greet her as normal friend.
Well, we weren't more than that too. After all the introduction and remembrance, she asked

"Why haven't you tried Lagos here. Things are cheaper, affordable and even accomodating"

"Me? Lagos? Where would I even stay? I don't have anybody there at all." I answered back childishly.

"Well you're very correct. You have no one but now you have me"

I laughed at her slight joke which I didn't tak seriously and we talked for a few minutes as we ended the conversation.
Meanwhile, she had arranged for someone to come pick me up at the village. What for? I wouldn't know too.

She called me a day before I was to leave the village that someone will be in the village and she will need my address.

"That was a short period. How would I get my things done?" Was what I saidWhat do I actually need to get in my metallic box? How many clothes do I have?

I found my way one way into Lagos. Lagos ythey say is a no man's land. A place where everyone does what he feels works for him. I guess that's why she said very accomodating.
Hours later, we arrived Lagos. I can't say how but I know this driver did some magics with the steering.

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I could remember when my lecturer will say "when you eventually become who you are, the first person you will remember is yourself. Before any other person"

I never believed him. Not at all. For what? I'm not selfish!

I Am Not Odejimi - My Evolution

I couldn't have gotten any answer better than myself. At this point, frustration became a close ally than a foe. Some days, I will sit just at home and go to the farm. And some other days I will just go to the palm wine shop and while away my time there. I am not even a palm wine lover but as you know, a villager has no option that was my case.

Many times would I come home half drunk and just want to sleep and then the nagging just starts. Will you just continue this way? And then the most irritating statement follows. "Why can't you just be like Odejimi?"

I've been keeping calm so I don't talk back. And in the African culture, talking back at your parents is a huge disrespect.

"My son! He shouted. You know Ajoke? Where is she now. What is she doing? Where does she reside now? What about her parents?" Of course I won't give answers because the questionnaire will give answers.

"She has elevated. Her parents now have the second largest building in this small community that we are in. Why don't you just be like her"

To think of it, it wasn't my fault. It's not like I haven't tried looking for job around corners. I've done and redone all I know is the necessity. I'm just yet to be called and notified. No one is saying anything. This I have explained and reestablished to my folks. Oh yeah! Folks. That's what I call them now. Quite a good number of years in the city did a little refining on me.

They feel I am not doing enough. Change is a constant thing and it's inevitable to all humans. After all, they've done their best by imposing on me to study Mechanical engineering. They feel the only way to succeed in life or rather have those luxuries is to study Mechanical engineering. And be like Odejimi. Each time, Odejimi became a case study used more often than a practical lecturer would have.

They succeeded that's because I never had a mind of my own. My father did all he could and I followed what he said.

It hurts me that I couldn't stand my ground and whenever I did, there was this sudden fear of the unknown. I respect my father so much and I wouldn't want to disrespect him in any form. I remember when he said I should go for that course, I told him I would rather do another thing. That another thing was what I don't know. And since I didn't know what it was, I had no option that to concur to his. I wouldn't have been a good lawyer. That's for sure cos I won't have enough evidence to prove my client innocent.

Having my views projected out while growing as a teenager was difficult. Naturally, I am a very gentle and easy going dude and wouldn't look for someone's trouble. I guess that's the attribute ladies saw in me that they would always flock around me.
Being the only child, I was catered for well enough at least to their standard. To where and what they could afford in their own seamless way. I never lacked in my own small world of fame.

That became a little barrier for me. A little barrier because I could understand sometimes whenever I needed some major materials, I know their situation. So I wouldn't want to bother them at all. Rather, it added one more bar to my motivation.
Probably, if I was the son of the rich, I would have stood my ground firmly always and anytime. That's just few out of the many teenage difficulties I faced.

I set out for the day as I would always do and was not in any mood to go job hunting. My most detested place in the village became my favourite.
I'm not doing all this because I'm the first person on earth to experience such delay. But for my aging mother. She's lying down there all day and my eyes can't stop the tears that would channel out. She has done more than enough for me till she couldn't do anymore.
And now that it's my time to do exceedingly for her, it's just not working.

"What a wicked world" I would always say gasping out the gas. Does palm wine have gas? Well it did in my own time.

Where I was seated was where I saw a hug car moving towards the palm store slowly. The gallops and hiccups on the road made it look like the car was on a festival dance. Myself and other palm wine colleagues even made jest of the situation.
The level at which my eyes were diminishing were astonishing. I never knew the moving animal had stopped as the occupants got out. I only saw a lady whose hand was at an angle of 45 degrees with a black and huge bag at the intersection. She didn't alight from the usual driver's place but this time the opposite.

It was none of my business as I stood myself up and went home to sleep. I passed through the back side so as to avoid any form of interrogation which has now become a norm.

The surprising part of this is....

I Am Not Odejimi -My Revolution Episode 8

"You remember Odejimi right? The big and famous guy that has almost everything right? Anyways why am I reminding you?" She said bent forward towards me.

"... You can never be like him. That's because your background is totally different from his. What do you know about him? And as a matter of fact, he sponsored me all through my education and he's still" snapping her fingers.

Darn! This girl has changed totally from the one I knew in the village. Little wonder I was surprised I saw her in this same school and flashing back vividly, I never for once saw her attend any of the schools in the community.

Now, I don't know neither do I have any idea what charm she has used on him. But I'm rest assured that charm is very potent. She has guts to even claim she is dating him?
Then what about the "bling bling" guy she's parading on campus? Just for a show off.

This I thought and I laughed out loud. Leaving her confused why I bloated out with such laughter. Probably, that made her so angry and she stumped out of my sight.
This laughter ushered me to where I left Rachael.
Her calmness all the while I was with Ajoke was priceless. Instead, she joined me in laughing.

"What was that?" She inquired

"Don't mind her"

I narrated everything to her and at the end, she sighed.

She offered we go to the restaurant cos she's famished. "You're always hungry" I said punching her lightly.

"Why are you always thinking?"

"I think because I need to"

Good! That's an inevitable something. She said laughing.

"So in other words you're a big time food muncho"
Smiling was the response she gave back.

I was just getting to know the sudden companion of mine that I never planned for. If there's anything she compelled me to do, that's will be my attire. She loves my Aso Oke more than anything. I remember her pay for the sew when I just got my hands on some fresh Aso Oke.

"I just love it. You are always superb whenever you are in it. And don't let anyone tell you you ain't good in it."

"Besides, has anyone ever told you how serious and matured looking you always look when you wear your attire?"

Not as anyone told me that. They only admire the style and give compliments. "You are actually the first to say so and I'm just hearing it right now. That's how intriguing it is"

School life has not been too easy. Just as life isn't one with bed of roses. You have tests, announced and unannouced. Students just unanimously decide to be naught. And then comes award nights and all other social activities that have been caved out by a special architecture just so they speed up your distraction rate.

You just have to "clenz your vocuz" in FalzTheBahdGuy's voice.

Yes, I know she has always taught me on self confidence but my course of study isn't giving me that ability to. I've always dreamt of a good life where my parents need not to struggle anymore. Then that's what I call "life is a bed of roses".

Mechanical engineering is a very fine course which I admit and a very good job to attain. No doubt.
But do I always have fun with it? It's a different thing to have passion and not have fun while serving your passion. I've thrived very hard and finally I graduated with a very good grade.

And after that comes the reality. Camp was fun or so I must say. I could remember while I was coming back from the parade, taking the narrow and lonely path, I was stumbled upon like a lion that catches its prey in an unprecedent move.

"The next time you have to say hi to my babe, it's that day you will..." The threats were like that. And I received them to the extent I was even the one threatning them.

I'm ladies guy. For what exactly and by what standard did I suddenly become ladies guy? I really don't know. But all I can deduce is that I've suddenly grown to be this refined man with beards and charisma. Yes! That's an attribute I can solely be proud of.

I can also dress to kill. This sudden rapid growth I can't explain. Never to forget my usual attire.
I've always been myself and that's what Racheal hammerred on me while in School.

We lost contact and I went on to the social media where I know I can reach her. No replies to my messages.

After my diligent service to my country, I began job hunting. And then while in the village, my father who was proud of me suggested I wait till the next Odejimi's visit.

All intended waits and visits to his father's was futile. Promises kept on rolling like drums of water and they kept failing like network test.
It's then and there I knew what pressure I just incurred on myself.

I heard life saying "Welcome my sir. You're just about to enter phase 2 of the usual challenge sir. What chapter will you like to play?"

I was so perplexed and disturbed. Not for any reason but for my dying mother. Her expectations were so high. Come to think of it, why have I not been called by any company even if it's just a missed call on my cell. I started giving up. It wasn't easy.

Two days later, I was at the farm as usual and I saw one who if I've met ordianrily by the roadside, I wouldn't by any chance recognise her.

Ajoke has suddenly become an oyimbo. She greeted from a very luxury car. I stood there amazed by the sudden transformation. After 2 minutes of interaction, I bade her bye. I couldn't stand the insult she was indirectly hurling at me.

"Was it my fault? Or was this a phase I needed to scale through?" Questions that needed rapt answers.