Immortality- What Way To Go?

Nigeria has lost two important and great icons in the football aspect of the country's affairs. Few weeks, I heard of the late Stephen Keshi's death and less than a week, late Amodu Shuaibu also followed. News had it that late Amodu Shuaibu was planning a grand and befitting burial arrangement ceremony for late Stephen Keshi. I'm sure he never knew it was his time also. Reading excerpts and tremendous works these two have done for Nigeria, no doubt they will be missed not just in their home county but also in the world governing of football.
Now NFF has stated out publicly that they will be IMMORTALIZING Stephen Keshi. And also giving him a 3 day burial ceremony. Tributes have rolled in from everywhere and even from footballers I've never heard of. IT JUST PAYS TO BE GOOD.

I am not bringing this to you like I'm the best carrier of news. Just look for a good sofa; make sure it's soft padded and grab an ice coke with snacks.

Speaking on football still, the families of the late Rasheed Yekini have finally come out with plans stating they want the Federal Government of Nigeria and the Football Federation to IMMORTALIZE him. Just like they did for Okwaraji. It just clearly shows that he's the first player to score in an international football for Nigeria.
IMMORTALIZING him can either be; naming a stadium after him. Or even building a good stadium with his name. It can also be erecting a tall and good sculpture and placing it in the finest place. Also, the date of his death as a public holiday. There are good number of ways to have that accomplished.

Why would they want to IMMORTALIZE him with all those? All those features are just a symbol. They are done so he can be remembered till forever. It will go down in history his works and life as a whole. He's never to be forgotten. It becomes like a "stigma" and even a permanent stain. Each time you IMMORTALIZE something or someone with an object, it shows whenever you set your eyes on that object, memories will linger.

What's is IMMORTALity?

Immortality is just the condition of being immortal. That's just the noun. To be immortal which is the adjective simply means not susceptible to death. To live forever; never dying. Never to be forgotten; that merits being always remembered.
To make famous forever.

Now out of all these definitions, I will like to point out the one which says "to live forever; never dying"
That particular definition says it all.

As adults who were once a Youth and Teenager, there are or have been many events played out that you can never ever for once forget in your lifetime. Some might have to yield into unforgiveness. Some times you just wished they never happened and you just want a second chance immediately. You want a hand clock which can tick into the pasts and then you correct those mistakes. I call them mistakes because it happened and then, you never resulted into them again. The irony of life is, those painful and perilous arrows are shot at you by closest friends. Even families. Sometimes when I see guys having difficulties wooing a lady, I just wish they would understand. It's a different case when a lad who is been wooed has a boo or boyfriend. That's disturbance(s).

But when a lady is wooed and it's crystal clear she's built a defensive wall which is so high and thick in breadth, it means something is wrong. When you see guys that just result into other forms of activities, it means the same thing. There must have been a vandalization of pipeline in themselves.

What are these *vandalization?

Self esteem.
Rape.
Rigorous sights from parents.
Upbringing, friends; peer pressure, trust and so on.

This brings me to the question "can you forgive and totally forget?". You can easily say Yes and even nod your head in the opposite. The truth is the brain tends to remember what it should forget. That's why whenever you're in a situation, sometimes you will be told; use your head and not your brain. What's the difference? The mind!
Parents have a great influence in the immortality of many teenagers today. Sometimes your mind is free and sometimes it's in chains. You want to voice out but then you remember the consequences. Your daughter gets raped and she's so afraid to even let it out to you. Why? Cos of your stern reaction. It will suddenly become her fault. That's a stigma. It's there. Never to be forgotten.

On the flip side, you meet this cute and handsome guy. He's accompanied with a first class job and also styled with an attitude of hard work. That's your ideal man right? Then you get talking and BOOM! You've fallen in love with him. You're way too deep in the love reaction that you forget there isn't any easy access to any ladder to help you out. And then the nuptials. Do you know the way he makes you feel, controls your heartbeat and even sends cold down your spine at any moment you look into his eyes can never be forgotten? Yes! It can't. That's immortality.

Peer pressure is another defect(s) in teenagers. It's almost like it's a constant and friend and enemy right from ages. PEER and PRESSURE. Two different words combined together can make you swerve totally from being good to the opposite.

You take your son to the doctor and he says he will administer injections for him. The moment the syringe is plunged into his thick skin, he shouts and cries out. The next thing you say is "peem! I don't want to hear you cry. You're a man! Don't cry". Do you've caused more havoc? The more he wants to let out those tears, you remind him he's a man and then he shuts his mouth. You're teaching such a boy to be a fearless man. Good! But you're indirectly teaching the boy to a bitter man. There will be some situations he just want to cry and he just can't find the tears. He's been living with that statement; you are a man! Brace up yourself.

There are many indirect immortals in teenagers who are on the fastest train link transiting into being an adult.

What's your immortality? What's that undying event you want to take off and you can't? It keeps debarring you from progressing spiritually and physically. What's that arrogant attitude? You weren't that way. But something made you that way. What's that exceptional pride you've gotten that even your parents; you see them as nothing. What's the reason for that defensive wall you've built and makes men keep backing away from you? What's that reason you've suddenly hated women? What's that reason you think you're less of as a woman or a man? What's that reason you want to commit suicide? What's that reason you can't forgive especially yourself?

Search within you and please let me know. Speak up! Voice out!! The beginning of right confessions is the right path to seeing its dead end. You need someone you want to talk to, lean on? Jesus is the only true friend who will always be there. But earthly, he has destined people with divine wisdom to help you with your cross. Everyone can't be a prophet. But you can actually be the prophet of yourself. Go down on those knees and talk to your creator. I'm sure he didn't create you with this pauses, clauses and scars. Find your true self and most importantly, be happy.

You have a friend you can always talk to? Good one! Go ahead and let out those bottled hatred, guilt and unforgiveness. That's what causes depression in many.

Should I even leave my email if you still need a prayer partner and my time!?

PEAZOUT!!!**

What Legacy Do You Want For Yourself?

My Dad and I have so much striking resemblance. Of the same height, his voice, humor and reasoning. I could remember when I was much younger, he sent me to a micro finance bank to collect something on his behalf. He gave me this small starcoms mobile as a way of reaching me and assurance that I met the right woman. On getting there, I asked for the name on the paper which I held and in few minutes, she was brought forward to attend to me. Immediately she saw me, she asked "Are you baba's son?".
That's what he's fondly called. I affirmed her and while she was saying she needed no person to tell her who I was, he called me. Asking if I had gotten there and seen the person.

There are several instances of how people excite about my striking resemblance. And I know it's not just in look. His character also I photocopied.

However, there's something that demeans us. Find out below.

My mum was talking to myself and my sibling. She wondered why we didn't study Electrical engineering and why we didn't even do anything like geography. He also joined her and said he wished we did that because he wanted to be a pilot. But due to his parent's financial status, he couldn't so he settled for that course as a profession. That's what I call LEGACY. He wanted us to keep that as a legacy and why? So he can be proud of us and we can also keep the family's name soaring high.
You ever wonder why your father as a Doctor wants you to study Medicine and become a famous surgeon? You wonder why your Mother as a lawyer wants you to study and become the CJN of the country? Every parent want his/her child to supersede them in every way but at the same want them to do what they've done.
If you don't do sciences, you must work in a bank. And if you don't do any of those three, you become a lawyer. Anything asides those, is just a waste of time.

It's not that our parents are just trying to be flexible. The thing is go to school and be educated so you can rise amongst your peers. Right now; it's talents that's selling fast like hot cakes. You see lot's of people venturing into media and entertainment. Both gospel and circular.

What's totally different between my Dad and I is our ZEAL. Yeah our zeal and drive for things is just almost opposite. My dad is into a particular type of farming in large scale. And to be honest, I'm not really into that. Me that I don't like stress at all. I just love to do my own thing. Of recent, my Mum sat me down and asked why don't you be like your father? I was shocked to stupor when she said that.
I asked her why she had that question thrown at me. She said she doesn't see my zeal towards that at all. She expects me to be up and down with that. My dad can do anything. Absolutely anything. He does the plumbing, wiring, carpentry works, mechanical duties, gardening. Name them.

If there's any wiring fault at home and he isn't around, my mum would just be murmuring cos she knows I won't even near it at all. Since the day I got two wires sparked before me and got flung by them, I've sworn that anything wiring is not my thing. Even if I'm in an over all.

The question now is WHAT LEGACY DO YOU WANT TO KEEP? I see Teenagers and Youths' into ungodly activities. Even families into the wrong things. You may think the children ain't seeing and watching you. The day they would try or say any darn thing before you, you would be surprised. You know, every wife beater watches his dad do same thing. A man just doesn't wake up one day and lay his hands on a woman. It's something he has lived with and watched and feels it's just the right thing. A man shouts on his wife right in front of the children. A man comes home late and give the silliest excuse ever. Even add drinking to it. A lady grows up tomorrow and wants to dress to slay. Why? Cos it's something she sees her mother do too. She wants to buy every aso ebi and attend every party not even minding whether she's gate crashing or not. She's lived with it over the years.

Tomorrow, I would want to venture into that particular farming my Dad is into. Why? Because it's something good. It's yielding good profits. Regardless of the stress whatsoever, I am venturing into it.

My take on this is; look before you leap. Think of not now but of tomorrow. Your kids and children are your future whether you like it or not. Be careful what you decide to do and what not to do.

Be wise!!!

WHAT?!!!

WHAT?!!
That's avery common shocking statement ever used. Or should I say the statement we can't do without in less than 3 hours?

You can actually say WHAT?!! In different facial expressions. Either with your mouth closed, widely opened, hands on mouth, hands twilred together, hands shoved in pockets. So many countless ways to express.

Why would you say WHAT?!!
It can be as a result of how happy you are or dissapointed. It is used interrogatively to inquire or request for a specific information. The moment you say WHAT?!! The other party knows you're interested in that conversation. What's is its twin?

The next words jumping outside your mouth is HOW? WHEN? WHERE? WHY?

I'm not teaching you grammar but relaying something here. Let me get to the topic before the discussion. That simple four letter words can coast you a lot. And it can also earn you a lot. The most important thing is be careful of what you do after that.

Your action says a whole lot. Even if you don't say a word, your body speaks too.

PEAZOUT!!!

Addiction - What Measures To be Taken?

For the fact that you see people move out there and go about their daily business doesn't mean everything is actually fine. I wear a handsome face and she wears a pretty smile accompanied with good make up and body physique doesn't mean she's absolutely a million percent the best.
No man is born without the intentions not to commit sin. Neither was any man born with the whole of knowledge on how to go about things beyond the physical control.

The worst thing that can ever happen to you is to commit and let your conscience keep haunting you. It's more like you've killed yourself and your conscience keeps saying "you're the killer. I'm coming for you. Why would you take me?"
If you're a lover of horror films, you will understand what I'm talking about. When you begin to feel in such a distasteful state of mind, oppression begin to set in. Frustration will lead your way beyond your human capacity.

Addiction is one thing that is not born with a man but a man gets it through crazy contamination.

What's ADDICTION?

Addiction is the state of being ENSLAVED to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.

Addiction is compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming
substance (as heroin, nicotine, or alcohol) characterized by tolerance and by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal; broadly.

Now, this is my favorite definition of the addiction.

Addiction is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance (e.g., alcohol, cocaine, nicotine) or engages in an activity (e.g., gambling, sex, shopping) that can be pleasurable but the continued use/act of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary life responsibilities, such as work, relationships, or health. Users may not be aware that their behavior is out of
control and causing problems for themselves and others.

However, most addictive behavior is not related to either
physical tolerance or exposure to cues. People
compulsively use drugs, gamble, or shop nearly always in
reaction to being emotionally stressed, whether or not
they have a physical addiction. Since these psychologically
based addictions are not based on drug or brain effects,
they can account for why people frequently switch
addictive actions from one drug to a completely different
kind of drug, or even to a non-drug behavior. The focus of
the addiction isn't what matters; it's the need to take
action under certain kinds of stress. Treating this kind of
addiction requires an understanding of how it works
psychologically.
When referring to any kind of addiction, it is important to
recognize that its cause is not simply a search for pleasure
and that addiction has nothing to do with one's morality or
strength of character.

The funny thing about addiction is; it has several siblings and cohorts. From different neighborhood. There are several forms of addiction.

Addiction can be:

Alcoholism.
Drug addiction which can be cocaine, heroin, marijuana, nicotine, tobacco, street drugs.
Food addiction.
Gambling addiction.
Internet addiction.
Prescription drugs addiction.
Sex addiction(prostituition, masturbation, pornography, gay, lesbianism)
Shopping addiction.
Work addiction.

When people are addicted to anything either good or bad, they are unable to control their actions or make rational decisions about their behavior, even in the face of negative consequences.
The good thing is every addiction can be turned away from. Some even say to adopt an habit, it takes 3 weeks. Some says 3 months. Different speculations everywhere.

Alcohol and drug addiction is one major addiction people battle with and also the most sought and talked about. But there are several and multiple addictions. For instance the sex. Sex not just between the man and woman but within one's self.

Let me hit you with this. I use to indulge in something. Romantic novels. I'm a reader. And I can go as far as anywhere to get anything to read in as much as I'm exercising my mind and eyes. It got to a stage I was in my usual inquisitive attitude and I stormed upon a novel; more like a magazine. The front page got me attracted and that's how I started venturing into it. It was all about sex, romance and all you can think of. Believe me, from that moment I started looking for romance novels. And you know when the devil wants to punish you more, you begin to see "relevant" things everywhere. Each book store I step into, I see romance novels. I so much indulged in that. And it led to another thing. At that moment I thought everything was right and just cool. On the other hand one little fire in me was countering everything. And I knew within myself that I was doing something bad. After reading the stuff, I begin to over imagine what's not. I usually go wild with my imaginations. And this led to another thing.

But thank God I'm way past that.

For I know I'm now no longer of the world and now alive in Christ. Old things are passed away all things made new.

I must tell you! It isn't any way easy to come off any form of addiction. I'm a living witness and that's why I can talk about it here.


Firstly, what you need is self determination. Once you have made up your mind, that's when more tribulations will arise. Things you didn't even know concerning that addiction will arise and you will begin to see more reason why you shouldn't drop that addiction. Self determination in the sense that you sleep every night and you just imagine. What if I don't wake up the next morning. What if I don't see the next daylight? What will my extradition be like?
Once you can identify that the addiction is wrong, doing more harm than good and in no way helping you grow spiritually, then you've set the right pace for the next move.

Secondly, you need to watch out the way you do things. Your friends. Negativity. You don't need friends with negativity and YES! If cutting them off will make you achieve what you want to do, let it be. It's better for you to be made whole and let them wonder how tremendous you've been able to desist from that. You might be a king pin in that act but when they see your motive and how handsome and beautiful you are. They will come back to you and ask "How did you do it?"

Thirdly, the right motivation. Yes! This was what I can say helped me off that habit. I met someone few years back and with the way I look at such person, I suddenly felt God brought her my way to cure me of that. Though she doesn't know yet and I know when she's reading this,.. Well!
Her life and way of life was so amazing I started asking myself. Look at her as a wife. Would you want to continue such act when you're married? My answer was NO!
If you can't control any act before marriage, how sure are you it can be a thing of the past while in marriage?
Her drive and positivity is way beyond my imagination and ever since then I can boldly speak up and say this is what I've been able to achieve right from that time. Spiritually!!

Without God nothing can be done. We will just keep wallowing in the mud. Everything we do will just be a waste. Prayer works and nobody can't say it's fake. Even the atheist can say they don't have a guiding spirit. God loves us all and even in our evil deeds, he's still there. He's only quiet waiting for us to realize our fault. He won't stop sending someone to you, speaking to you through signs, dreams and any way you can.

You can add your way of getting out of an addiction and maybe your own addiction.

With God everything is possible!

DASSALL

PEAZOUT!!!

How Do You build Your Teen's Identity?

Social pressures are more pervasive and destructive than ever before in American history. Parents often feel helpless to equip their teens with the tools to navigate – and steer clear – of harmful relationships, attitudes and behaviors.

Ideally, the process of equipping our kids to live and thrive in an often Christian-hostile world begins as soon as they are born. In fact, parents are the single most important developmental influence in a child's life, apart from the Holy Spirit himself. But even if time has slipped away, and your teenager seems out of reach, you can begin to lay building blocks to help your teen grow to maturity in Christ and make a positive impact on his or her world. Love, commitment, self-discipline, perseverance and a lot of prayer are required, but you can do it.

Assisting your teen in forging a strong, positive identity is one way to help her form convictions based on truth, and then stand firm in them regardless of what everyone else does.

As parents, we can build our teen's identity by using a brick mason's approach. Masonry is an art that requires intense study of the project's design before setting the first brick in place. The job is messy, requires hands-on application and commitment.

Parental brick-layers labor alongside our teens as they experience the joy of discovering their significance in Christ and their identity. Teens today are overscheduled and often lack the skills to communicate or set boundaries. They need our help to decide which bricks fit and which ones don't.

The challenge? To encourage them to be who God made them to be, rather than who we want them to be.

Brick-by-brick, we can make a difference for our teens and in their world.
Brick #1: Encourage Self Discovery

My husband Derek shared a devotion about integrity with our fourteen-year-old son Justin and his friend Tim* (name changed). Derek asked them, "How committed are you to integrity?"

"I'm not that committed. But I want to be," Tim answered.

Derek said, "Telling the truth is integrity. Thanks for being honest."

"I get in trouble with certain friends," Tim said. "The pressure to be liked affects me."

"Until you decide who you are," Derek told Tim, "you will be like a chameleon, blending in to whatever situation or whoever you are with."

Derek mentioned a former game show and said, "Will the real Tim please stand up? Until you figure out who the God-designed Tim is, you will struggle with your friends."
Brick #2: Acknowledge Natural Abilities

Teens yearn for our support and relationship. It's important to affirm their natural abilities. Be their cheerleader. Attend activities even if they say, "It's no biggie."

Encourage athletes to stay involved in sports throughout high school. Challenge the artsy to try a new instrument, audition for a play, take a watercolor class or voice lessons. If they love to argue, consider the debate team. Talk about career choices that use their talents. For example, math skills are priceless for computer software engineers.
Brick #3: Create a Family Motto

When my friend Beth's three teens were growing up, their family motto was "We aren't quitters." Anytime her son or daughters wanted to stop short of a commitment, they heard this phrase. Eventually Beth's children believed, "I belong to a non-quitting family."

By creating a tagline, our family identity is established. Then when difficulties arise, our motto serves as a stake in the ground declaring who we are as individuals — and as family.
Brick #4: Value Uniqueness

Physically and emotionally, teens' lives constantly change. They can feel overscheduled, unknown, abandoned, or even betrayed. Adolescents still want a unique place in our home. They need to know they belong and that they matter.

Encourage busy teens to enjoy down time, which strengthens their creativity and problem-solving skills. Inform your son his sense of humor is missed when he's gone. Tell your daughter you notice her thankful heart.
Brick #5: Highlight Spiritual Gifts

Ever since our son Justin was little, he has shown kindness to kids that are different. As a high school freshman, he continues to tap the heart of the lonely.

Justin's gym teacher asked the students to share who their best friend was and why. Both a popular and unpopular guy picked Justin. Their reasons: "He shows interest in me. He makes me laugh. He sits by me. He sticks up for me."

We affirmed Justin for using his gift of mercy with his friends.

Study verses about spiritual gifts with your teens: Romans 12:3-8; 1 Corinthians 12:1-31; 1 Corinthians 14:1-40; Ephesians 4:7-16; and 1 Peter 4:7-11.
Brick #6: Reinforce Spiritual Identity

No brick is more foundational than this one. When teens understand their worth in Christ, they can reject negative thinking that peers, insecurities and problems hurl on them. Just because teens fail — which they will — doesn't mean they are a failure.

Teens develop confidence when they believe they are loved by God — no matter what. This inner strength will carry them through trials and peer pressure. As they search for significance, our teens can influence their peers to do the same.

Google "Who I am in Christ." Print and review with your son or daughter. If someone tries to embarrass them about a mistake, say, "There is no condemnation for those in Christ" (Romans 8:1). Don't criticize them when they are knocked down. Instead extend your hand and your heart.
Construct A Strong Identity Wall

Building our teens' identity is a long process. The Great Wall of China took years of extensive labor before it fended off enemies. Our teens live in a hostile culture too. They need a wall of protection. As parental masons, we can help them stand up under fire.

The challenge is to be like Beth's family — and not quit.

Tifanny Stuart

Happy Birthday To Me!!!

I wish I could start rolling how grateful I am to God almighty for this wonderful day. He's been so gracious and merciful despite my unfaithfulness.
He's made me to witness another +1 to my age. And I pray I age with grace, in good health, good things and most importantly in God's magnificence.

I remember while growing, many had said I wasn't gonna go far nor reach this certain age of mine. Even went as far as saying I wasn't going to be fat. Fatness wasn't meant for me.

But look at the boy now!!! God has been so good and faithful.

Looking forward to more of God's faithfulness in my life. I know better things ahead.


Happy birthday to me!!!

P.S: THAT'S THE BOY BEHIND THE FINGERS PLAYING WITH WORDS THROUGH INSPIRATIONS AND DELIVERING THEM TO YOU ALL

Are You Prepared For The Might Task?

The truth is, the more we embrace technology the more it weighs into our responsibilities. Should I say I'm glad been born in the 90s era and brought up by folks from way back in the 50s and 60s? Yes I'm not lucky but blessed!

It's an undenying fact that the rapid transformation of kids these days in this century is quite alarming. I know of a kid who was operating an Instagram account right before me and was asking me how do I do my Snapchat. Woah! I exclaimed and was just staring there and then. She further said I heard my friends say they are on Snapchat and I should add them.
Obviously, they are the rich kids and maybe less monitored. Always back from school and they are either with the gatekeeper, house keeper or maids. Parents now are so gulped with a lot of things and the promised time they want to have with their kids, they get occupied again.
We need to rent a space in these children's head to know what exactly they think and how they react to things.

There are two worlds and we need to understand that. The VIRTUAL WORLD and the THE REAL WORLD.

The VIRTUAL WORLD where they live a larger percent of their lives. And the REAL WORLD where once they don't get satisfied with what they want, they shift into the virtual.
Now the VIRTUAL WORLD there are filled with lots of discussions. Like sex, sexuality, pornography and all those you can imagine.

What's my point? It's hard to say parenting is really going to be hard in the nearest future. Believe me! You hear news everyday about abuse and assaults of different magnitudes. Some from parents and others closer than you think.

We all need the GRACE OF GOD.
After that we need the right institutions for parenting and guidance. May the Lord help us all.

PEAZOUT

What Age For Sex Education?

My Mum came back from work and as she will always do, narrate how she spent her day. And I over heard her conversation with my Dad how a grade 3/4 (not too sure) boy made some exceptional statement(s).

She narrated that the boy being an autistic patient, said some things no one ever thought he could have. Obviously, he hardly talks or doesn't even talk at all. And she recalled that she always mentioned to the junior teachers that the boy shouldn't be ever downgraded.
This boy in question said to his female classmate "I want to do love". His class teacher was surprised and she reported him to my Mum. Unsure and she asked the boy to repeat and counter the allegations. Surprisingly, he attested to the allegations.
She asked him if he knew what he was saying and he affirmed. She asked him how do you want to achieve that? He then moved slowly to her ears and whispered "through the penis and vagina".

When asked to show what he knows as penis and buttocks, he tried pulling down his pant.
down. What she did next was to call his grandma and narrate everything to her.

What caught my attention was when she said her grandma was surprised and disappointed at what her grandchild had done. SERIOUSLY?

I'm not even baffled at what happened. But of how surprised the granny was. I was forced to ask doesn't she do sex education for the child? Where are his parents? Does he have free access to phones? What are his reactions whenever he's with the opposite sex? Maybe she gives him sex education but doesn't inquire into his privacy.
I'm thinking first, this boy has free access to mobile phones and even a pro on the internet. You know what I mean. I might be wrong but something somewhere must have instigated him say i want to do love.
I'm so glad he knows the different organs; male and female and not replacing it with some words that can't be comprehended. Referring the penis as "dick", "cucumber" and hwat have you. Saying the vagina as "pussy", "cunt". JEEZ!

At what age do you give you start sex education for your child(ren)?

If you ask me, I will say the moment your child knows the right hand is used to eat and and left hand..well! I think Quality sex education should start in kindergarten. Early elementary school students need to learn the proper names for their body parts, the difference between good touch and bad touch, and ways in which they can be a good friend (the foundation for healthy intimate
relationships later in life). Fourth- and fifth-graders need information about puberty and their changing bodies,
Internet safety, and the harmful impact of bullying. And seventh-, eighth- and ninth-graders are ready for
information about body image, reproduction, abstinence, contraception, H.I.V. and disease prevention,
communication, and the topic they most want to learn about healthy relationships.

Think first about the seemingly insignificant things: How do you handle children’s jokes about going to the bathroom? What’s your reaction to your toddler seeing you naked? How do you respond when other adults bring up sex in the presence of your child? Such early parent-child interactions start your child’s understanding of what is appropriate with regard to sex, even before you know they are interested. The way that you relate to your child’s body through both body language and word shows your level of comfort with your child and with the private topic
of sex. This sets the foundation for your child’s
sex education. Both direct and indirect communications have an impact. So kids learn about our feelings toward sexuality through all of our words, actions, and interactions.

You must have heard or even asked this question at a certain age. And probably you weren't satisfied with the answers. Soon you will become a father and a mother. What reply do you give when asked "where does a baby come from?.
When a young child asks where babies come from, you might simply say, “A baby comes from a mommy and a daddy. When a mommy and a daddy want a baby, they get together and have one.” If your child is 4 or 5, that
may be enough. If she’s 7 or 8, however, she’ll need more information. You might say something like, “Both mom and dad help make a new baby. The dad’s sperm goes
inside to meet the mom’s egg, and they make a tiny baby that begins to grow in a special baby-room inside the mommy.”
We all might not have been privileged to have been given sex education but with "civilization" and things we read and hear we should be willing to make a change and do what's right. Cos doing what's right is different from doing the right thing.

PEAZOUT

I Satisfy My Daughter Sexually. She Doesn't Need Any Man. REALLY?

Was surfing through Facebook and I cam across a shared post. I couldn't desist my eyes from what I saw. My brain still passing the message down my spine with my mouth opened. I heaved a heavy sigh.

I mean, that caption sounds irritating and unacceptable to me. I don't know of you. I detest against such. Well, anyone who is in his/her right thinking drive will know it's so wrong, awkward and absurd.
If you can read through the lines, you will know something is wrong.

I've always been asked like an African mother will tell her son. Why haven't you married? Yeah! That's the question. Mine is a bit different from that. Why are you single? You want to know? Contact me personally and I will tell you.

I remember when God instituted marriage. He never said thy shall leave your mother and cling to your father. He said for you shall leave your father and mother and cling together to be one. I don't want to believe the only or major reason why we want to marry is for sex. It is also written "because of sexual immorality, every man should get himself a wife and a woman get herself a husband." 1 Cor 7:2.

Asides that, there are many things marriage entails. The creation of marriage is
recorded in Genesis 2:23-24: "The
man said, ‘This is now bone of my
bones and flesh of my flesh; she
shall be called “woman,” for she
was taken out of man.’ For this
reason a man will leave his father
and mother and be united to his
wife, and they will become one
flesh." Like I mentioned earlier on.

God created man and then
made woman to complement him.
Marriage is God’s “fix” for the fact
that “it is not good for the man to
be alone” Genesis 2:18.
I am addressing this because there are right now many wrong perceptions about marriage. And it's a pity Teenagers are beginning to fall victim of these. The rate at which teenagers hunger for this is quite alarming.

Yes! We all want to get married. But the question is DO YOU WANT TO BE GET MARRIED AND BE HAPPY?

Haha! I know your answer already. Yes! Nobody wants anything bad. As you've wished that, what knowledge do you have about marriage? For the fact that popular and humble Nollywood actress Omotola-Jalade Ekeinde got married at an early age. In fact, as a teenager; doesn't mean yours too will be as Rossy as hers.
You don't know what has been covered and how many things has been covered.
In fact, here and right now I have a perfect picture of how I want my own home and family to be. We all have that mapped out right? But sometimes it doesn't always be as we've planned it to be.

And that leads me to these questions.

1. What do know as marriage? Are you planning for a wedding or marriage?

2. What are your visions and perspective as being a mother and a wife, a husband and a father?

3. Can you maintain a home?

4. What are certain measures you take when it comes to family?

5. Can you switch from being a boss at work and being a wife and mother at home?

I could go on and on. Can you find answers to those? It isn't all about having children. It's all about being happy, growth and finding who you really are.

Mind you, I'm not a therapist neither am I marriage counsellor. I can only do my best within my own knowledge and God's directions.

DASSALL

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Why Steal From What's Yours III. Concluding Part.

I didn't have intentions to prolong this article. I guess when God isn't through with you, you just have to move along with his flow.

If you've been following the post, then you know what I have been emphasizing. It's a misplace conception about what the "society" portrayed or protrays around most especially through media whic should be of more good than harm.

There's no two words to describe SEX before marriage other than FORNICATION. And for whatever reasons you need to react through actions, there are always consequences.

There are many consequences that
result from being disobedient to
God when it comes to FORNICATION.
First of all you are defiling His holy
temple as we saw earlier in 1
Corinthians 6:19. Would you go
into a church and vandalize the
sanctuary? That is the same thing
as defiling your body, which is a
temple of the Holy Spirit. Another
consequence is unwanted
pregnancy. Statistics have
skyrocketed into a negative
direction as a result of fornication. If
people would save sex until
marriage, there never would have
been a movement to legalize
abortion which is also sin. Abortion
came about as a result of man
trying to cover up sin. Due to
disobedience to God, approximately
46 million babies have been aborted
since 1973.

The current count for
abortions in the U.S. per year stands
at 1.3 million. Due to fornication, 40
percent of babies are born out of
marriage yearly. That is a 30
percent increase from just twenty
years ago. Due to fornication over
65 million people in the US have a
viral STD with nearly 19 million new
cases each year. Percentage wise,
nearly half of people will contract an
STD in their lifetime.
Fornication also relates to why 50%
of marriages end in divorce. This is
because many go into marriage with
wounded emotions, spirits, and
diseased bodies. When you decide
to lie with someone outside of
marriage, stop and think about
whether you want to get married
some day or not. If you are like most
people, you will desire marriage at
some point. The day may come
when you have found the love you
have always dreamed of but having
to face that person and tell them of
all the prior partners and sexually
transmitted diseases that you are
dragging into your marriage may
not go over too well and can be
devastating...especially if your
potential spouse's background is at
the opposite end of the spectrum.

Therefore, many marriages begin
with two strikes against it already if
the relationship does not die
before making it to the altar. When
you choose to fornicate, you sin
against your own body and against
a possible future spouse. There are
many cases of a spouse having a life
long struggle with their mate's
promiscuity.

If you are a woman, think about if
you desire having kids some day.
100,000 to 150,000 women
become infertile each year as a
result of STDs. And if you do not
become infertile, some STDs can
cause your child to be born with
defects such as blindness. Don't
make your child suffer because of
your disobedience to God. Even if a
child has no physical defect, a single
parent home can cause them to
have emotional scars due to lack of
love from a mother and a father.

Yorubas will say "O ba. Ko ti baje".
There's always a way out. And that way is REPENTANCE.

For God gives warning to the fate of
fornicators that do not repent, "But
the cowardly, unbelieving,
abominable, murderers, sexually
immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all
liars shall have their part in the lake
which burns with fire and
brimstone, which is the second
death." - Revelation 21:8.
"Marriage is honorable among all,
and the bed undefiled; but
fornicators and adulterers God will
judge." - Hebrews 13:4. If you
have committed fornication and
lived a promiscuous lifestyle, don't
beat yourself up, just repent while
you still have time. Many factors
may have contributed to you being
that way but you can make a
complete change. If you will confess
your sins and repent, God is willing
to wash it all away. Jesus paid the
price for all sins when He died on
the cross. Do not allow His sacrifice
to be a waste in your life. Repent
now and become a born again
virgin. "Repent ye therefore, and be
converted, that your sins may be
blotted out, when the times of
refreshing shall come from the
presence of the Lord." - Acts 3:19.
After you have repented, fast and
pray so that God will give you the
power to reject temptation. Find
someone that you trust that can
hold you accountable. That person
can encourage you during your walk
with God.
There are many cases in the Bible
when God used women who were
harlots for His cause. Rahab was a
prostitute in Jericho. She hid the
Israelite spies that came to take
over her city. For this act, she and
her family were spared during the
invasion. Her faith was commended
in Hebrews 11:31 and she is even
listed in the genealogy of Jesus
Christ. Tamar is another example;
she played the harlot by seducing
Judah but is also listed in the
genealogy of Jesus Christ. These
examples were not given to glorify
fornication but to show that God can
use anyone and is willing to forgive
if you will turn to Him.

Having sex outside of marriage can lead to
severe consequences such as
unwanted pregnancy, abortion,
incurable STDs, losing the person
you would like to marry, divorce,
having a child with birth defects,
becoming infertile, and demonic
possession. And on top of all of that,
you are defiling the temple that
belongs to Christ.

Before giving in,
ask yourself is it worth it?

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